Would love suggestions for books or websites to help with this problem. It's killing me.
2007-02-05 14:29:42 · 7 answers · asked by AnswerGirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Their both pre-teens............. their bodies are changing and they don't know how to handle it.
Enroll them in karate classes; then they can re-focus their energy on something more constructive. Karate, or any type of
self-defence is extremely helpful to teenagers.
2007-02-05 15:03:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont have any real suggestions other than Dr. phil seems too know alot bout family issues you can try to look for a book from him or his wife.
but from my experience with my brother as we were growing up well boys will be boys we fight we curse we make up and then we fight again...by the time we both graduated highschool got more mature we were able to settle our differences talk thinks out and be best friends.
me and my bro fist fights in the restroom, had real wrestle matches on tile floors i was the biter he was the muscle and my mom let us duke it out untill my mom couldnt take it any more and she would strip our rooms of anything fun...that means no games no tv, no books, no phone, nothing just a bed and boring normal stuff in the room...if we got real bad we would be disiplined by getting a swat from the paddle...boy does that freakin work...
best advice i can give you that i know will work is never back down from a threat you make for instance " stop fighting this instant or i will take your (fill in the blank) away" if they continue break them up put them in their rooms and take watever it is you said away...if its a swat then swat them.
if you swat them they should learn quick not to fight in the house...if they go outside well id say let them they will feel the pain if they start a fight...emotionally and physically esp if they love one another
2007-02-06 00:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by jaybe2k37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them the back door. Tell them under no circumstances is anyone to come in whining about being hurt unless areteries are severed and spurting or bone is protruding through skin and let them duke it out. It is NATURAL for kids of this age to fight. Put the bandaids, ice packs heating pads where they can find them and let them have at it.
2007-02-05 22:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well thats typical as long as they arnt killing each other get them out of the house, wether it be friends or family or sports, and have them talk to you and each other about what makes them boil dont worry to much and if you have to force them into seperate rooms they arnt going to hit you they cant its agianst the law, send one off to camp for two weeks and then the other or both.
2007-02-05 22:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Britanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them if they want to fight go outside . and by all means don't come running to you when they get hurt. and when they want something tell them as soon as they stop fighting they will get it. until then don't stand your ground and show them whos boss. my dad you to take a razor belt and just snap it . and me and my sister stopped.
2007-02-05 22:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you rather them hold in their hostilities towards each other inside, until it explodes and one of them in a trance of rage kill one of the other?
2007-02-05 23:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Yahoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they don`t mind get out the belt.Give them tough love.It works...
2007-02-05 22:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by (A) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋