sex question for other married women?

Question

Been happily married 16 yrs and our sex life has always been decent never been great but never been lousy either..Well been 2 weeks since we did anything cause im tired of his ALL TALK NO ACTION CRAP LIKE always saying he wants to do it more but never happens. Well tonight he wanted to do something and i didnt give in cause of this..Well tonight again he said he wanted to do it more and said he was serious and i said to him yea right i have heard that 1 before and he got mad and and gave me the silent treatment for a while..I wanna believe him but he has said this to me SO many times..So my question is should i talk his word on this this time or not believe him since he has said this many many times

He said he has been thinking about this and is serious

Well just a few minutes ago he said i do wanna do it more and i said something about him always sayin that and he said "why do u always bring up the past"

I know i should believe him but its always the same thing he says it but never happenes so how am i suppose to believe it when it never happens

Well jt ur thinking ALL the wrong things..We are both still attracted to each other and we dont have any porn

No im not a 13 yr old where are u getting this from? im 38

I dont know where u read where u think im some 13 yr old.

And where do u think my profile at?

If u mean my profile the answer i have ask of i see that but dont see where it says im 13 cause im not

i answered a question a 13 yr old ask about "is 13 to young to date" i didnt ask it.

That is under my answers NOT my questions get it right before u start accusing people of something and yea maybe i am crazy lol

And B K i might have ask questions about sex and husband before BUT never this 1

Answer 1

it's hard to say. is he self conscience now or something? Just take his word for it and see how it goes.

Answer 2

Well, for one thing, you are belittling him. You don't tell him, "oh, I've heard that one before." You tell him, with a smile on your face, "oooo, show me." You are discouraging him because of your condescending attitude. So, he's made promises about it. You don't have to lay this all on him. Why don't you take charge once in a while. Why don't you give him a chance instead of belittling what he says. Of course he's not going to want to do it after you talk to him that way. I know it's not what you want to read and I know you would prefer to have someone agree with you, but if you want to make this work and be one the same page, you need to see reality of things. Sorry.

Add: I had previously wrote other add in response to the person asking the question, but if anyone has read on her profile all the questions she has previously asked...this person is just trying to stir up things. One minute she's married and has no sex life. The next she's a 13 year old having sex. Read the profile. She's making crap up as she goes along.

Add 2: I'm getting it from your profile. It lists all the questions you have ever asked.

Add3: You are right. My mistake. I just saw the 24 questions on here about you and your guy about the same thing.

Despite the fact. I retract all that I previous said. My final ansser is...you're nuts.

Answer 3

Hmmm -- funny, I don't exactly believe your first statement: "Been happily married 16 yrs..." I'm neither married nor a woman, but I can offer a frank, honest perspective. It sounds to me like neither of you is attracted to the other anymore -- you aren't emotionally attracted to him anymore (the whole physical attraction thing never mattered much to you anyways), and he's not physically attracted to you anymore, mainly because the porn he's looking at as you read my reply does a better job at getting him hard. Put him on the Nutrisystem Masturbation Diet -- in other words, if he agrees to stop spanking the monkey, you have to agree to lose the pounds. Stop begging, too -- there's nothing that turns a guy off more than a woman who's desparate, or nagging, for sex. You need to figure out a way to make HIM beg for it again, honey.

Answer 4

Well, playing hold out isn't really helping, it's just increasing resentment between the two of you and that does not equal good sex. If he has said that he wants to be more intimate then I am inclined to believe him. Is the current 'hold out' doing either of you any good? Intimacy is just as important as sex. You need a few days where you just cuddle, kiss, hold hands, talk about how much you love each other. Reconnect with the man you married and I guarantee the sex will follow.

Answer 5

I've been happily married for17 years. Our sex life has been great. Why don't you look for little ways to spice things up,,such as watching porn or making you're own porn. Why don't you put on some sexy little outfits for him & give him a little inititive to want to do it more often. It takes 2 to tango, & it takes a lot of effort to keep things interesting in the bedroom after having sex with the same person for so many years.♥♥♥

Answer 6

I have just looked thru your other questions.

Gees lady what is wrong with you?????????
I feel sorry for your husband for putting up with your crap for the last 16yrs.
Why do you ask stupid questions from the past, i think you may be obsessed with sex and initiating it. You say you are happily married and your husband is soooo great then what's with all these lame question's.

Answer 7

HA HA Sorry for laughing but your marrage sounds like mine. We have been married for 14yrs.If you really think about it .It's kind of cute that after all these years we can still argue over such silly things.Mine just say's he's tired
I have done all kinds of things to get him motivated ,sometimes works and sometimes does'nt .
I even threatened that I would have an affair .I think men get bored after awhile ,you need to spice things up,

Answer 8

You must believe him & let him try again as he is the only loyal husband for the last 16 yrs. Try to have pure thoughts about him.

Answer 9

it sounds like he is wanting you to instigate sex with him or something ,YEAH what the heck give him some and see what happens after 16 years you do know where it is dont ya?

Answer 10

When my hubby wants to do something, he tends to act on it, even without saying he wants it.

You could just tell him flat out that when he wants it, you expect him to act on it and maybe he should wait to say something until he is ready to do the deed.