How do I get my image back?

Question

Years ago I was thought of as someone who was easy going, made everybody comfortable and could keep things moving along. Then I developed social anxiety disorder pretty bad, but honestly, I played it up a little, which I know was immature and stupid, but I didnt want to talk to people. People are still comfortbale with me but some see me as pathetic. I kind of need to do it in 4 months i dont want to go out like this.

Answer 1

Well, we can never be what we used to be. Experience and life changes us and we grow. It's impossible to deny that. And, there is nothing wrong with that. With that said, you don't know if people see you as pathetic. This is something that you are just seeng. But, why do you need to do this in four months?

Answer 2

along. Then I developed social anxiety disorder pretty bad, but honestly, I played it up a little, which I know was immature and stupid,still comfortbale with me in 4 months i dont want to go out like this. ok.

Answer 3

What do you mean by 'go out like this'?

I think the best way to do something like this, is to just do it. From this point forward, you imagine the person you want to be...and be them. Before you converse with someone...become the person you WANT to be, and interact with the other person as the 'new you'. Don't interact with that person as the 'social anxiety disorder' you. BE the person you would admire.

Soon it will become natural...and not so much like 'acting'. People will notice and you will gradually get the confident, comfortable, laid back reputation again.

Answer 4

Any anxiety disorder can be really overwhelming. If you are experiencing intense nervousness, negative thinking about yourself, difficulty socializing, then you would definitely benefit from seeing a counselor (therapist) to work through it. Your real friends will remain comfortable with you, but to really deal with this tough time and be able to comfortably meet new people, is to talk to a professional about it. We don't hesitate to go to the doctor for physical pain, why not to a therapist for emotional pain?

Answer 5

First of all, noone thinks you are pathetic; lots of people have it to some degree. Hell, I have it. The trick is to just be yourself and not care too much about what other people think. Love yourself and take pride in yourself..in your mental and physical health. Workout at the gym...read a fun or educational book.

In addition, throw yourself in lots of different social situations (religious clubs..comunity service groups...etc). You don't have to be the LIFE of the parties...but you know make a descent effort. Before you know it, your mental state will aclimate itself to social situations all over again. Good Luck!

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Answer 6

well the thing that you should do is get sociable again....try to talk to yourself in the mirror but picture someone else being there infornt of you, or get a family member and talk to them. i know exactly what your going through becuase i went through the same thing. it is not hard, it might take a while but when you do it everyday it will seem like a piece of cake to you.

Answer 7

Well its hard to change an image but just try to look happy and smiley, even if its pretty cheesy. Say hi to people when you walk by them, just look all happy and playful. That will give u that easy going image. Altho u say ppl r comfortable with you, so who cares wut the others think...

Answer 8

get some Assertive training. You lack self confidence.

Answer 9

Try to be sincere to others in relations automatically you will regain your image in society.

Answer 10

Just be yourself and don't worry about what others think