What makes a realaionship last 50 years of marriage?

Answer 1

health

Answer 2

Trust, and trustworthiness. Knowing that the grass ISN'T greener on the other side of the fence. Deep deep fatal committed love for one another. Both partners committing themselves to the happiness of each other. Taking the time to carefully find the right one in the first place. Constant ongoing conversation. Realizing that your spouse is way more important than any trivial squabble you might have. Constant vigilance as to the health of your relationship. Realizing that over a span of 50 years, the two of you will change physically and mentally. Sometimes quite drastically. Incorporating those changes into your lives instead of letting them sneak up on you, and surprise you. Renewing your relationship periodically so it never grows stale. Staying close always, but allowing space when it's needed too. Operating your marriage as a marriage of equals. Neither is the "boss", and neither is the "subject". NEVER forgetting an anniversary, or birthday. Doing so says "You're not special to me anymore". Gifts don't always have to be extravagant. If all you can afford is the card, so be it. But the dates should be remembered, and celebrated as possible.
Respecting each other as a whole person, not just various parts. Realizing that marriage is 24/7/365. There is no time off, or time out, and you don't want one anyway. Marrying your best friend in the whole world.

Answer 3

1. Communication--communication is key in ANY relationship.

2. Trust--if you don't have trust, you just have a glorified friendship.

3. Independence, not co-dependence--you each have to stay individuals while being together.

4. Realizing that flaws are a part of life.

5. Respect--respect privacy, respect what s/he says, and respect each person as an individual

6. Keeping the romance alive--it doesn't take a lot. Even a slight change can make a HUGE difference.

7. Honesty--without it, the relationship is pretty much over

Trust me, love is NOT all you need.

Answer 4

Lots of things, I think understanding, compassion, selflessness, compromise, support, all these things are needed in a healthy marriage. Sex is also a big part of it. I think if you ask anyone who's been married that long, they'll tell you that there were rough times, but they didn't bail out when the going got rough, they didn't work against each other. They are a team, and always present a united front to others. My parents have been married 41 years, my in laws have been married 54 years. Both marriages have seen their share of ups and downs. But the commonality in both couples is they put the needs of their spouse ahead of themselves, they make sure all around them know that their husband/wife comes first, and nothing is allowed to come between them. I remember my dad used to tell us kids growing up, that he loved our mother long before he loved any of us, and he'll live with her long after we've left their home. They are 2 very happily married people. I see my in laws do the same, my mother in law is very protective of my father in law, she won't let him do more than he should, and he's the same way with her--they're both dealing with health issues now. But it's sweet to see how they both look out for and care for each other. I know for a fact that my parents are still physically intimate with each other, and my husband says he'd bet the farm his folks are too, so that's a huge part of marriage, that really can't be ignored. But it's not sex, it's the intimacy. I hope I have that kind of relationship with my husband when we've been together 50 years, I think I will. We've been married 19 years, and each has been better than the last one.

Answer 5

Staying commited and true to each other and your marriage no matter what... Working through hard and tough times together. Being selfless and giving instead of selfish and taking all the time... Unconditional love and forgiveness... Treating each other the way you want to be treated. Being the husband or wife that God wants you to be and having God in the center of your marriage. Mutual respect. Honesty and faithfulness... Loving each other even when you dont feel like it. Communication. Intimacy in marriage is important as well.... Basically keeping your vows until death do you part. Marriage is what you make of it and you choose to love your spouse until death do you part NO MATTER WHAT!

Answer 6

Realize that the people who have been married for 50 years got married in 1957. Back then, marriage was for life, religion was a big part of life, and those people were born in the 1930s. Values were big--divorce was practically unheard of--and "till death do us part," meant something.

I'm not trying to say that those people didn't have any problems, I'm sure they did. But they worked at keeping the peace, and keeping their vows.

Answer 7

Love,respect,kindness,helping each other-listing to each other-not being jealous of everyone each other talk to-don't accuse one another of silly things that don't make any sense-caring for each other-being ther for each other when things are good and bad and remember that you have to give respect to get respect and if the two of you love each other you can over come anything if you hang in there and talk about it-don't do the blame game-don't do the other woman game-you and your husband are the only ones that can make your marriage work

Answer 8

I just hit 32 years with her. I must say that all the other things like trust. honor is true. For me it has been accepting the natural changes that take place with you partner. I wake up every day and think.. How can I be a better husband today, and you know she does the same.

Answer 9

Thinking of your spouse more than of yourself. Being willing to do without so your spouse is happy. Creating a life using the word we instead of the words you and me; using ours instead of yours and mine. Not even wondering about a life without your spouse. Remembering that you gave your word to be together until death do you part and making you word mean something. Basically, you do not do things to make a marriage last. Instead you keep from doing things that might cause a marriage to fail.

Answer 10

well I have been with my husband for 21 yrs married 15 on feb 15th.communication compromise love and lots of hard work.you have to live,laugh and Love alot.Also think of your mate 1st. me and my husband has been together since we was15 we are only 36 and 37 and we have 3 kids,Love for your kids really keeps a marriage going.

Answer 11

Well my Grandparents have been together 55 yrs, my grandmother tells me that you have to understand that you can't rely on a man to entertain you, you must do your own thing sometimes, and not expect him to be with you constantly, other than that trust, commitment and communication..