i have my ultrasound app in a few days and my mother in law wants to come but i only want my husband to come. i want to tell every one else over a special dinner. please help i dont want to hurt her but i want this to be special.
2007-02-05 13:34:41 · 14 answers · asked by GINA D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
tell her that everyone want to come and you don't want to upset them and let her come so you had rather tell everyone at the same time tell her you will have it recorded for all to see most doctors will record the ultrasound.
2007-02-05 13:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by goforit 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A good way to get around this is to let her come to the appointment, but have her wait until you and your husband have the complete exam. Where I work, the ultrasound room is very small, and we only allow one "spectator". But, if a mom-to-be has other family there, we will invite them back at the completion of the exam and scan the mom for about 5 minutes. It is called an entertainment ultrasound. Then you have the best of both scenarios. The grandma to be is pacified and gets to share the experience, but you and your husband also have the privacy to share the experience together.
2007-02-06 14:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lissacal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it is too difficult to explain to her that you would kindly like her not to go....I would tell her that they rescheduled the appointment and then just go with out her. Or I would try to reschedule it for another day and not tell her you did it herself. Were you planning on having the family dinner the same night? if not then, then that could work.
Or you could just say that the doctor appointment is a private thing and that you would rather no one else be there other than your husband. and that you will be more than happy to tell her all about it over a family dinner later. That you do not wish to hurt her feelings, but that you would like your privacy.
Good luck!
2007-02-05 13:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by bratzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband tell her that it's a special moment that you want to share with each other. My mother in law only went to 1 ultrasound with us. I only asked her b/c I knew she longed to go. It was later on in my pregnancy. And she asked the tech TONS of questions instead of just sitting, watching and enjoying. That is why she only went to one.
2007-02-05 13:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by elprez14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, explain the situation to her and make a compromise.... say for instance, that you realise that she really wants to be there, but perhaps she could help out some other way? Maybe she can plan that special dinner for later that day. Im sure she just wants to feel more involved.
2007-02-05 13:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Helene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you want it to be a surprise for everyone.. and even though she may be able to keep a secret you want it to be a special bond between your husband and you. She should back off and do as you wish without much complaint. I mean this is your time and maybe your first child.. don't know.. sounds like it and you just want your husband and you to do this alone.. she really shouldn't get mad.. just let her no in a good manner
2007-02-05 13:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the best thing to do is tell your husband, Assuming you feel comfortable telling him things like that, and just explain that its a special thing that you want to share with him and only him, and that not to exclude his mom, but your mom isn't going as well, so she doesn't feel hurt, (unless there is a specific reason your mom doen't have intentions of going). Tell him its a special moment for the two of you, and that you would feel more comfortable with just him there, that way it won't start an argument and you are saying it in a way he will appreciate.
2007-02-05 13:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand how you feel LOL, my mother in law loves to invite herself to things. I say just tell her you want a special day with you and your husband, or like me since it is his mother have your husband explain it...so much less stress.
2007-02-05 13:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by Redkenwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest.... and say this is a personal moment for my husband and I.... and i would like to keep my appointments that way.
but i would love for you and the rest of the family to join me for a special dinner and my husband and i will love to share the wonderful news then.
2007-02-05 13:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by vkewl182 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and explain that this is a special moment in your husbands and your life and you feel that it would be more appropriate to share this moment with each other and celebrate with the rest of the family afterwards.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-02-05 13:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by azhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation. Just tell her that you feel it best that only your husband come in case they want to do a vaginal ultra sound. That it would be a little awkward for her to be in there.
2007-02-05 13:38:12 · answer #11 · answered by Amber S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋