In school he doesn't focus on his work and pay attention when his teacher teaches. Writes his homework in his book when he feels like it. And now starts to lie about not getting homework when he does.
2007-02-05 13:34:08 · 8 answers · asked by moa11879 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
School is a meat grinder. Your child might be intelligent and bored. Or he might simply not want to jump through the hoops when he sees no tangible reward (which would also indicate intelligence). Think about this as an adult right now. Would YOU sit for six hours and slave away for a piece of paper with a letter on it that really means nothing to you? You might slave away for money, but that has tangible results. It puts food on the table and lets you enjoy your life to whatever degree that may be. Grades don't intuitively make sense to kids nor does the concept of homework. The more arbitrary and nonsensical it seems, the more your kid will rebel against it. Education serves a variety of practical and virtuous functions. It is not only necessary, but GOOD. Try focussing on communicating those things to your child in a language he will understand. Perhaps make it worth his while to learn with some real life incentives? Perhaps try making learning fun at home and then explain that learning at school is just an extention of that fun in a different setting?
Parents often have an instinctive distate for "bribing their kid to do something they should already be doing" as most of them see school as just that: something they should just intrinsically want to do. Why? That is the big question. Would you probably go to work if there wasn't a tangible payoff? Kids can't see the payoffs, so it is your job to either explain them adequately or CREATE some payoffs (or some combination of both) to create a sufficient incentive structure that everyone is happy with.
2007-02-05 13:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do You work during the daytime. Maybe you should make more time to spend with him when he's at home. Did you ever read to him when he was younger? Reading books and imaginative children's stories while children are small, even 1 year old, helps children build up "brain power" and memory, and gives them a good base for starting school. I would speak, person to person, with his teacher and try to get some extra work for him to do at home, and you can encourage him by giving him compliments on his good work, etc. BUT do NOT do his work for him. That will just make him lazy. Also, a good checkup in the doctor's office may bring to light a deficiency in vitamins, etc. The change in his behavior has to begin with YOU. GOOD LUCK! And ~~have patience, please. As a last suggestion: Buy your son a colorful plastic folder that he can keep his homework in. Attach a page to it with his name, grade and his room No. and his teacher's name. Then, by itself to the left side, write: REMARKS> (The teacher AND you can print a short "adjective" word like GREAT, GOOD WORK, KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK,) or even paste a gold star each day he does his homework. He'll be looking for more and more stars and words of praise. Who knows, when he grows up, he may become a teacher himself. Just hang in there. He needs you.
2007-02-05 14:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning how to avoid doing work is the premptive to learning how to get others to do it for you. At 5? he's talented with the right nurturing he will probably be a company director one day.
2007-02-05 13:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bohdisatva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u need to give his motoviation
like take away his games and videogames and mp3
and ever time he does good
u give him piece of it back
like just a game
and he can't play without the videogame player so he still needs to get A's
and u can also get him games
make sure to get progress reports from teacher
2007-02-05 14:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sis was like that too from the pre school through primary and middle school. she's now in the first year in hi school, still not focussing on her studies
2007-02-05 13:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ganbatteru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little bro was the same. all you got to do is get himm interested in school. tell him what will happen if you dont have education. it might work.
2007-02-05 13:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by thushief27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
motivate him with a reward chart or help make it fun
2007-02-05 13:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's bored...maybe he's too young for school...maybe YOU need to pay attention to him..
2007-02-05 13:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋