My husband and I have been through so much together in the last 5 yrs. Alot of bad things happened in the past between us. He used to go out drinking all the time and never had time for his family. Plus in the past he never could hold a job. 2 yrs ago he did a total change, he doesn't go out and he holds a job and loves being with his family. I am the problem now, I have been so mean to him for things he did before and I cant get over it... I feel terrible, he is a great man and I love him dearly..Please help me find a way to put the past in the past and make up for the last two years becuase he dont deserve to be treated the way I have been treating him.
2007-02-05 13:32:52 · 12 answers · asked by Vicki B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The past is the past-let the past stay in the past and stop bringing it back into your future-you said that your husband did a complete turn around 2 yrs ago-he finally saw his mistakes and he change-now you should change-through all of his drinking,going out,not keeping a job, you stayed with him because you loved him-he is still the same man only now he can see his mistakes and he corrected them-help him-don't bring him down-you can send him back to the past-now all he wants is to be with you and the kids-I think that is great-he changed-you can change to before it is to late and things can't be repaired-being mean to him you only hurt yourself-you may be missing out on a lots-try not being mean and start looking at what a good thing that has happen in your family-you love him and he love you and both of you love the kids (count your blessing) you are blessed-some times they never change-yours did.
2007-02-05 13:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to him and apologize and ask him to forgive you for what you have done to him and how you have treated him.... Tell him you still love him and want to learn how to be a better wife to him and for your marriage. Maybe you and he should go to marriage counseling together as well. Love your husband and start treating him the way that you should. I wish you both the best and hope things get better for you and your marriage soon.
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2007-02-05 13:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must forgive him for what he did to you in the past. You will not be able to move forward if you continue to look back. Treat him as you were taught to treat a man. Forgive and love him woman.
2007-02-05 13:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by Grown Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwww.... good for you!! I'm like, proud of you for recognizing this problem and seeking help for it!!
It's tricky, letting go of bitterness. The whole bad time you just wish he would shape up and be good to you. Then he does, and you're so bitter, you can't let go of the past.
Please read up on letting go of bitterness, there may be some books out there. Check Ebay and Amazon. Also, if you really want to work though it, seek counselling on your own. Maybe couples therapy later.
Good luck - I really wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-05 13:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen,
maybe you can not forget the past, but you should forgive it. You maybe need a therapist, to help you to forgive your husband. If he said sorry for his past action and if you want to give him a new opportunitty, you must look for help.
Good luck
2007-02-05 13:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by MATEA F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him, and forgive yourself.
Start all over again, tell him you are sorry, and you want to be a good wife and lover to him, tell you you love him, and you will make change. tell him to help you, and help you both to improve the relationship, make him know that you have the sincerity. Ask him to forgive you.
2007-02-05 13:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very concious of the way you're going to react the next time he hugs you or kiss you or what ever. Think about the way you're going to act, before he even acts.
2007-02-05 13:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel about him and that youve been treating him wrong then get on all fours tell him to pick a hole and to pound it hard to punish you. Itll do wonders for your marriage.
2007-02-05 21:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him and you both can take it from there. There's nothing better than telling the person about the truth.
2007-02-05 13:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just tell him the same thing you have expressed here. And just tell him sorry ! Ol' pride can be mighty hard to swallow sometimes. But you'll be glad you did!
2007-02-05 13:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by cool_jj334 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋