okay so i have this boyfriend and he is always caring for me telling me how much he loves me and stuff like that i am a teen and i love him to death!i thought i was preganant by him and it turned out the test was a lie.he got locked up and he got out but he says he will never leave me again.he is comming back on satuday and i am goin to be so happy!when i first met him he told me i was beautiful and flirted with me and i started to flirt back! i liked him alot and my friend told him so we hung out and ending up kissing and got together we have almost been together for a year and he wants to marry me!this is big he always talks about it!i have had bfs before but he is special makes me feel like somone all my bfs used me,lied,cheated,and abused me.how do i know that we will last forever i know i am young but i love him and i feel like he can never be repplaced.i know if i love him why should i ask it is just complicated cuz i love him but how do i know he wont leave me i do trust him tho
2007-02-05 13:27:04 · 13 answers · asked by babyboo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What to do?
Life is so complex.
Solution:
Make it simple.
You are in control of your life.
Take charge.
Good luck.
2007-02-05 13:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lana817 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I met this guy and he was only 15, I was 18. At first I thought that we could never happen but we did. Kyle and I started dating and 2 months later he asked me to marry him. I didn't say yes right away because it was to soon. So we kept dating and things were great. He made me smile and laugh and made me feel like no other man had before. So on Oct 14, 2006 Kyle and I got married. Needless to say what I thought was true love turned out to be anything but. I filed for divorce 2 months later. See here is the thing, we were both really young,(yes I consider 18 to be really young) and we both thought that we were madly in love with one another but it was just a false cover that we had both put up. Now Im not saying that you and your boyfriend don't love each other but just take things slow and make sure that you don't end up like me and Kyle. We thought we had it all, a perfect relationship, and a perfect marriage, but boy were we wrong!! So just make sure that your feelings are true and that your love will last.
2007-02-05 21:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by frdtrkgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is all the rush for? If you love each other as much as you say, then you can live together and grow together and experience things together. When the times comes to get married and start a family; you will know it is right because you will be able to trust him 100%. If you have doubts now, it won't work out in the long run.
2007-02-05 21:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by libabeinphilly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I could tell you what you want to hear...that things are going to work out and you are going to live happily ever after....but as a mother, who has a daughter that I love imensely, I can't do that. One thing you acknowledge is that you are young and he makes you feel special. What happened to your self esteem that you don't feel special enough within yourself? I'm not asking that to be mean. I'm asking that because it appears that you are looking for someone to rescue you or sweep you off of your feet. Honey, the real world doesn't work that way. Charm only goes so far. I don't know you, but you sound like the type of person who is willing to give their heart and soul to someone who appreciates them and makes them feel the way this man is making you feel. I'm going to spare you the "you are way too young" lecture, as I think you know this. But, in that same sense, as a mom, I have to tell you that you are never going to find happiness, even with this guy, if you aren't happy with yourself. Truth be told, we can't look for others to give us that special feeling and relationships...real relationships will last when you find that happiness within yourself first.
I wish you the best honey. And if this doesn't work out, once the broken heart heals, chalk this up as a learning experience and use the wisdom in your next relationship.
2007-02-05 21:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know if it will last forever. I thought I found the woman who I would retire with at 30. Married for 22 years and ended up in divorce court last year. A two year engagement would of made a difference for me. I knew after two years that I made a mistake but sucked it up and raised our kids. Take your time, you will see the real person soon enough (when the lust is reduced) them make your decision.
2007-02-05 21:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by Marty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen dear, life is a chance, and so is love. You don't know if he will leave, but if things feel great now then that is what you keep building your relationship on. You can't sit and worry about what might or might not happen. You will be waisting your energy on that and not making the relationship grow. Good luck.
2007-02-05 21:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by btyboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep things the way they are for awhile, a long while. Being married doesn't mean he will never leave you. As people age they sometimes grow apart. Age a little bit together!!! But not marriage wise.
2007-02-05 21:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you are young, you should wait. If he loves you as much as you love him (which he should), then he'll wait. Tell him the truth, that you love him to death, but you're not ready for that, and in a few years, then yes.
(oh, have you pinched yourself to make sure that you aren't dreaming? I know I'm answering, but to me, life is one big dream/nightmare, always changing.....)
Yes, I know I'm weird, move on with your life.
2007-02-05 21:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, you will not last forever. The truth is hard, but you are young and it will never, never, never last. Some day you will be SOOO over it and you will look back at all of this and laugh.
2007-02-05 21:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by MonsterMash 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TRUST....is a big thing, you are young, if you trust in God, He will never let you down...He wants ur heart so that He can lead your life....Jesus loves you
2007-02-05 21:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋