I am a gay teenager living in Los Angeles. I am in the closet and am desperately seeking help. I go to an all-guy school leaving homophobia rampant no matter the policies against it. I fear that I am goin through my years without a purpose or being gay is too much on my mind.
But the constant thought of knowing a gay person or actually dating a gay person is going through my mind. Call me psychotic, but I feel I am tired of living this lie.
All I want to another gay person to touch and feel. I feel that this "gayness" is not real and that I am just wasting my time on this.
I ask for your help. What can I come to grips with this "thing"?
2007-02-05 13:22:49 · 15 answers · asked by kpfehp 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are doing some of it now and that is communicating with your peers. You will get some good and some bad advice. You must sort that out according to your own values. Being gay is somewhat of a lonely life anyway so you will have to coup with it to an extent. If you find a lasting relationship in this type of environment you will be extremely fortunate but please don't give up. It's a good lifestyle if you can handle it. It's not all cut and dried and it won't always be pleasant just as heterosexual life is not perfect either. Take it slow. You'll meet someone someday but you have to get out and mix with people to do that. Good luck and if I can help any other time let me know.
2007-02-11 18:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I doubt if you are the only boy going through this at your school. Just think that there could be other boys thinking just what you are. The first thing you should do is talk to the counselour. You can do this in private and only between you and the counselour. Every school has one.
You could ask your counselour to start an outreach for children having feelings of homosexuality. See how many may come forward. Then you could start meetings to get to know each other.
I do not know were at in Los angeles you live, but you could look in the yellow pages or the gay rights area and find a hotline, and they could most likely put you in touch with many young teenagers in the area. You could do all this in confidential manners.
You do not have to out yourself when there are so many homophobic issues at hand, but you can reach out for help.
Start with the counselour in your school, it is confidentiality.
2007-02-06 01:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have received so many answers that mine is only a 2 points scores that i will get in return. But you know what there are millions of gay teenagers that wait for you. Los Angeles is a Nice place for you and other gays. I was there long time ago and i actually enjoyed when a cop offer me a night sleep with my friends (RV) in theirs parking lot. A fireman give one of the best twinkling of and eyes. I just remember nice experiences out there.
2007-02-12 14:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kid, you aren't. LA huh -- if I were you I would start by calling the GLSEN network there : Gay-Straight Alliance Network--Empowering youth activists to fight homophobia and ... Suite 610, Los Angeles, CA 90015, ph: 213.534.7162, f: 213.553.1833. I might also consider the gay and lesbian community center: McDonald/Wright Building 1625 N. Schrader Boulevard Los Angeles, CA 90028-6213
Building Hours: Monday - Friday 9 am - 9 pm
Saturday 9 am - 1 pm (pharmacy only) Sunday Closed
323-993-7400, there is a youth program there. I have also linked below to a gay and lesbian youth center.
If you need anymore help that I can give, or if you just need to talk to someone, email me. I'm from the east coast, but I do care, and I have friends your age out there -- but they are in...umm... Orange county? -- the suburbs anyway.
I mean the thing about writing, and I mean the thing about caring. I am here if you need me.
Be in love.
Your friend,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-02-05 14:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your parents about changing schools, but do some research first. Find one in your area that has a curriculm that is gender integrated and would suit your intellectual pursuits then present an adult argument for wanting to attend. Sometimes all we need is a change of venue and what was once considered a weed all of a sudden becomes a flower.
2007-02-05 14:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're tired of it, chances are you're either bisexual, bi-curious or straight. Most people don't feel tired of it. They feel ashamed, scared or angry, but not tired.
Waisting your time? Look, it aint a profession, or a hobby, or a purpose in life, its a sexual orientation. It's not a "thing" or a sickness, its just who you are.
If you're trying to find your purpose in life, you're not alone. You're young, and still have time to figure it out.
But if you feel that being gay is too much to deal with...perhaps its time you painted on the other side of the fence for a while, ya know?
2007-02-05 13:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a gay teenager. Looking for someone to confide in. Do you realize how many more are at your school wanting to know the same thing? Lots, and they don't know why you and the other don't come out. Be more specific about your age, and your school. Don't name it , just be more specific. Allow emails or IM 's and most likely you will hear from someone at your school that is gay or bi.
2007-02-05 13:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by JUSTIN C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you so much its to bad in today's world that people no matter what they are or believe are judged or hurt butt really what is normal any way. I believe in your situation that the Internet is your only hope connect that way get to know this person there are more people out the that feel the same as you. please don't get to depressed when your least aware that perfect someone is waiting to here from you. Good luck honey and keep it real
2007-02-13 12:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK BECAUSE U ARE AT AN ALL BOYS SCHOOL AND THATS WHAT U SEE EVRYDAY. U PROBABLY TAKE P.E. AND SEE THEM UNDRESS AS WELL. U ARE AT AN AGE TO QUESTION YOUR SEXUALITY. U MAY NOT BE GAY OR BI- U MAY JUST WANT TO EXPERIMENT TO GET THE THOUGHT OUT OF UR MIND. IF U TRY IT U MAY LIKE IT AND U MAY NOT. JUST RESEARCH IT AND THINK OF WHAT ROLE U HAVE TO TAKE ON MALE OR FEMALE THEN U NEED TO THINK OF WHAT ALL U HAVE TO DO SEXUALLY IN THAT ROLE. SEE IF ANYTHING MAKES U UNCOMFORTABLE OR DISGUSTS YOU. U WILL LEAD YOURSELF TO THE RIGHT ANSWER
2007-02-13 03:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by cute_dimples2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about being gay i no alot of gay ppl. who cares if others no. i mean whats the harm. and you are not the only one out ther im sure there are other gay guys in ur school
2007-02-05 13:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Casey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋