Dumb question, what are some ways to be less needy?

Question

I think that's my problem (one of them), I'm too needy.

Answer 1

Jenn
I am guessing you are speaking of being emotionally needy.
I don't know that there's really anything you can do about it, other than to achieve more confidence in yourself. You could try and make yourself a bit more self-reliant. Go outside your comfort zone a bit, that sort of thing.
But you may not be able to change your basic personality. If you're emotionally needy, then hook up with friends/guys who are emotional caretakers. It takes all of us to make the world go 'round, Sweetie.

Answer 2

Put things in perspective. You only have so much time on this planet and it isn't that much (on a cosmic timescale). Do you want to be wasting it on stressing about silly stuff or do you want to be the strongest person you can be? I think personal strength is the key to not being needy and I think personal strength comes from introspection and knowing as much as you can (which hopefully gives you some perspective). Once you have some knowledge, wisdom and perspective are only a hop, skip, and a jump away. That perspective will help you discard a lot of those anxieties and insecurities because they simply are not practical or useful given the realities of human existence. The sooner you realize how wasteful and impractical they are, they better you will be and the easier of a time you will have. It sounds easier on paper than it does in practice. The stronger you are as a person, the less you need other people to compensate for your weaknesses and the more you can stand on your own two feet.

Answer 3

You need to appreciate the things you HAVE for more than a week. Don't worry, I've seen people get over this problem. You're probably an impulse buyer too, huh. Just start stopping yourself and you'll find that your problem slowly goes away. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I am sorry but it is hard for me to tell you to be less needy because I looked at your pic and I can't think of one way or reason not to need you
and I can't think of one way for you to be less needy, except maybe ..no I can't do it, your to pretty and we all need you

smile
good luck

Answer 5

i should be smarter yet I by coincidence watched The View quicker or later very last week and it sucked a minimum of 5 IQ factors precise out of my mind. It change into kinda like smoking some terrific pot except I not in any respect were given the giggles and that i kept obsessing over scarves and thigh fat.

Answer 6

try doing some volunteer work at shelters, nursing homes, etc. you will appreciate even the smallest things like blankets, socks, reading, etc.

or when you start to think you've got it sooo tough, think of all the tragedy families have suffered at the hands of Katrina, earthquakes, kidnappers, etc. this is what i do when my twins start to really get under my skin (as three yr olds do) then i give them a big hug no matter how angry i am.

Answer 7

Try to make some new friends and get some new activities so when people aren't available to make plans with you you can either find someone else to chill with or you can do a hobby.

If you don't have a job getting one would definitely help.

Answer 8

you need to be specific. what makes you needy? is it being poor, because thats what I think of when I hear the word needy. precisely what is it you need and please dont say a million dollars. I think we need specific things if we are to answer this question.

Answer 9

first, define needy as it pertains to you ... people can feel needy for a lot of different reasons (i.e; not enough attention, poor self esteem, high value on material things, etc.).... which if any of these describes you?

Answer 10

Not a silly question. I think learning to be happy with what you have is how to learn to be less needy.