What am I supposed to do?

Question

So here's the story: I'm a well-educated, Christian, Egyptian person. I'm pro-dating, but it's hard meeting a guy for the following reasons: I'm in graduate school in the U.S, so I'm always busy studying. And being at this level in my life helped me realize what I really want in life. I'm kind of picky, but I believe I deserve to be because I really worked so hard to reach where I'm right now. In the Egyptian family dictionary, I should already be married. Well, it's not really my fault, I just haven't met that "special" someone. I'm an all egyptian girl, I can't just go hunting for guys! It's very hard w/ Valentine's day coming up, and everyone's planning what to do w/ their partners. So what am I supposed to do?? :(

I already have my bachelors and I'm in graduate school, So I'm way older than 18 :)

I tried letting people set me up before, but that never worked. No one really knows what u want except u!

I just want to thank everyone who took time to answer my question. I was really amazed by the honesty and the encouragement of every word. It's very hard choosing the best answer here. I'm glad I posted my question though, couse I feel that I gained friends here :) Thank you again :)

Answer 1

Dear
I understand & respect the fact that you are not willing to lower your standards just because you have to be with a GUY.
You have to keep it like this. Somewhere out there, there is a great guy who deserve you and he is looking for a lady like you.

Do not rush and do not hock your self-up with someone that your friends may introduce you to him.
Or you may say yes because you don’t want to be alone. I know how hard to be alone. But you know what, I know people who are in love & still feel alone...
Or you may think that your friends luckier than you. How do you know if they are really happy??
Trust me, the pressure that you feel is normal and healthy. We all need this great gentleman in our life, to make things magical & days like Valentines is worthy.
I do not really think that a girl as smart & mature as you will let go of her values or the fantasy of this man you have in mind.
Chill out & relax. Take your time. He will enter your life like rainbow, and fill your soul with music & taste.

Good luck
& H.V

Answer 2

I'm Egyptian (male), but I'm older than you. Don't change your standard and just go with anyone if no one deserve to be with you.
I'm proud of you as an Egyptian that you can keep your Egyptian style. At the same time you should have many Egyptian friends as possible and don't worry when the time comes you'll find him in front of you. I liked your words when you said nobody can understand what you want as you.
As for the Valentine's day it's not a problem, I know that feeling already it's the same when you go to wedding parties of your close friends and relatives and you feel you are the only single in the world. I suggest that all singles have to find a way to celebrate the Valentine's day with other singles too. I'm in Egypt now, but we can celebrate on line if you like the idea.
Later also you can try to visit Egypt in a vacation and make some new friends who may understand the Egyptian style girl.

Hugs and kisses from Egypt to you

Answer 3

I don't know what all your beliefs are concerning dating or marriage. But I think in order to find Mr. Right, we need to be around others our age, or places where we can get to know others, like a party, or social hang out, or even at religious meetings. What do you do on your spare time? Do you make your self available for friends, and family? They can help you. Make your self a list of what you want in a man, but be realistic with your self. There is no perfect man out there. Try to get to know several guys, and just have fun. Maybe one person might get your attention. Work and school is important, but you need to be balanced too. Even if you don't find someone this month, just be patient, it will happen for you. Don't rush into anything just because you feel alone. Make plans to go out with other single friends you may have. So that you won't be lonely.
Talk to your mother about your feelings too. Mom's can be a help some times.

Answer 4

dont rush it. and do not just get urself married just cuz of our Egyptian traditions. the right guy will come one day but in the right time. concentrate on ur work and educational future for now and when it is time u will find urself getting involved and married before u even know it. I got married at 22 (a yr ago) and before then I was in USA living and studying. my eldest sister (just a yr older) got married at 18 so everyone expected me to do the same. but I was not willing too. I rejected soooooo many people and I was very picky too, and before I even know it, I was engaged 1 month after I got my bachelor's to a guy I met 6 months before the engagement. so anyway, take it easy, be happy, enjoy the success u r in now and soon when its the right time u will meet that special person

Answer 5

First of all, congratulations on what you have reached so far. This is great and impressive and you are a source of pride for all of the Egyptian people.
Now you are not that old - according to the Egyptian standards- Most of the girls have your problem and they get married late. Like at the age of 40 or something. So you don't have to worry about that.
But let me ask you something, you said you are picky. Do you think that maybe you are limitinig your choices to some extent ? I am saying this because I have some relatives here in Egypt . They are like you in the sense that they have college degrees Masters, PhDs and stuff like that. But they too are so picky.
I don't know. I am not in your shoes, but for me when I choose my girl, I am not going to base my choice on the fact that she is "suitable" to the hard work I exerted in my life. To choose someone like that would be similar to choosing a business partner. When you choose a life partner , it is more of choosing someone who is close to your soul, who understands you , who makes you laugh maybe ? who can amuse you by his words, his ideas and the good time you can spend with them.
I truely don't want you to go beneath your standards, but I am asking you to put some "heart" in these standards instead of all " mind"
Allllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll the good luck to you in your life.

Answer 6

You have the right to be picky especially at this stage of your life.....You are now looking for a life partner not just a boyfriend to hang out with....My advice to you is concentrate on your studies to achieve your goal and get involved in some social activities in university/college so that you can meet new people and your life partner could be amongst them.....Good Luck

Answer 7

I'm assuming that you've developed some friendships while attending school. I suggest you do what most women do when trying to find a date and need to protect themselves. Ask one of your friends to introduce you to someone that you can trust and have something in common with. Start as a double date so that you will have a back up. Above all, stay picky. Don't ever settle for Mr. Right now, wait for Mr. Right.

Answer 8

Plan an extra special day.

There is someone out there for you but fate has not come your way yet!!!

This is what I would do (just thinking about it make me want to do it for myself)

Order flowers to be delivered
Get a winecountry.com gift basket of candy delivered to you.
Take a bubble bath, light candles and play soft music
Get your hair done
Go to a movie or the theater

Read a book, magazine etc.

Call some distant friends

Or do some charity like take flowers and cards to a nursing home or hospital

Answer 9

You should join a group for people with the same background as yours. Your school should be great place to start. Are you sure you´ve never met anyone interesting in any of your classes? Maybe you need to opne up your mind a little bit.

Answer 10

i know & i feel how much its so hard to be lonely in this special day
but as i understand you doing fine with your studay
i cant tell you go ahead with your this & we cant even hide that every one need some one in this life
just try to do some thing like dateing or join a group from your study
make the frist step & who knows ? maybe your MR perfect will be so near to you soon
Good luck & wish you the best