I have this friend who I've known for about 3 years, and have considered her a friend. But she's changed and has gotten rude. She also goes on about her religion(Christian) and says that mine is wrong(Catholic). I don't have anything against her religion, but she shouldn't say that mine is wrong. I don't know how to tell her how I feel without sounding mean. I just wish she would respect me as much as I respect her. I just want her to treat me like a real friend; like I treat her.
2007-02-05 13:08:57 · 21 answers · asked by frenchflute2011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Roman Catholicism is #1 in the major branch of Christianity
Christianity began in the 1st century AD as a Jewish sect, and shares many religious texts with Judaism, specifically the Hebrew Bible, known to Christians as the Old Testament (see Judeo-Christian).
There is a diversity of doctrines and practices among groups calling themselves Christian. These groups are sometimes classified under denominations, though for theological reasons many groups reject this classification system.Christianity may be broadly represented as being divided into three main groupings:
1) Roman Catholicism: The Roman Catholic Church, the largest single body, includes the Latin Rite and totals more than 1 billion baptized members.
2) Eastern Christianity: Eastern Orthodox Churches, Oriental Orthodox Churches, the 100,000 member Assyrian Church of the East, and others with a combined membership of more than 300 million baptized members.
3) Protestantism: Groups such as Anglicans, Lutherans, Reformed/Presbyterians, Congregational/United Church of Christ, Evangelical, Charismatic, Baptists, Methodists, Nazarenes, Anabaptists, Seventh-day Adventists and Pentecostals. The oldest of these separated from the Roman Catholic Church in the 16th century Protestant Reformation, followed in many cases by further divisions.
Estimates of the total number of
Protestants are very uncertain, partly because of the difficulty in determining which denominations should be placed in this category, but it seems to be unquestionable that Protestantism is the second major branch of Christianity (after Roman Catholicism) in number of followers.
2007-02-08 16:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by cashelmara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps a taste of her own medicine is what she needs? She needs to know that what she is saying to you about you & your religion is hurtful & most of all judgemental! It is a sin to pass judgement, she needs to be reminded that all worshippers sin, no matter what their religion is. If it comes off a little snippy, it will only help to accentuate how upset you are by this. Sometimes you can not always be careful & approach the situation on eggshells! This sounds like a major conflict between the two of you that needs to be resolved asap! If she can not respect that not everyone is the same religion, I think your friend needs more than some talking to, she needs therapy. She is coming off as prejudice & hateful towards other religions. I really would just come right out w/it and let her know exactly how you feel. Don't sugar coat anything & if she does not change, I really don't think I'd want to continue being such a person's "friend." Good Luck!
2007-02-05 21:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by avaadore82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only the people who can c everything are good at what u desire: place nothing on the scale of friendship but her: not your religion: not your respect for her: not your respect for others: just play the game: for u to be smart is like asking u: do u have an EASY button: of course u don't but if you want to avoid a lot of crap don't try to change her and you are going to have your hands full when it comes to boys on this issue, girls go nuts when this happens to them later in life so don't get off on a rant every time your right cause u need all the friends u got to have more Friends, this isn't the give and take world this is the real world of your smart and their dumb so let it be and now the difference, we don't sweat the small stuff when we are growing up cause it isn't working in real life to be open about rude and polite, i know u want respect but go with out it and c if u can, maybe the issues of her will fall away after the impasse is correctly diagnosed by u, the sciences of the mind are not always intact when u are as smart as u are and have dumb friends too, sometimes i used to help people even when it meant leaving them alone~in other words Jesus could have screamed from the cross at his persecutors till the flames came out of his mouth and that would not have altered the facts that you are intelligent and don't need to play head games to be a friend
2007-02-05 21:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First start with reminding her that God Loves us all equally. She shouldnt put you down but uplift. If you'd like you can assure her that you will pray and see what God has for you. Remind her that God is not religion. Being a christian or catholic is only a title. It's like soccer. If someone plays for a team.. They are not the team, they are a soccer player... Does that make sense?? I dont know but we are all going tword the same goal. Remind her that if she is judging your beliefs incinuating that you are sinning because of your beliefs in saints exc. She too is sinning by telling you are wrong. Bottom line is we all fall short... The bible says sin is sin. No sin is greater than any other sin... If she is just become christian.. Sometimes it happens we want to save the world.. but we must be wise in how we speak to people.. The Bible also says if we cause any of his sheep to turn away... The blood is on our hands. I hope your conversation goes well... God Bless You!!
2007-02-05 21:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are gonna just have to have a friendly talk with her and tell her she has a right to her religion and you respect it, and you also have a right to your religion and she should respect it also, our friendships should not be based on religious beliefs, if it did then we would be somewhat limited as to who we could have as friends. If she doesn't understand then maybe she just isn't quite as mature as you.
I hope it all works out good for the two of you.
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2007-02-05 21:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that everyone has their own religion and what they believe in. Real friends treat each other with respect. Explain to her how you are feeling.
2007-02-05 21:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her it bothers you that she doesn't respect your views and it hurts you when shes rude to you. Let her know that you feel like she's not putting as much into the friendship as you are and you don't know if she realizes it or not but its been bothering you. Don't make it sound like you're blaming her for anything. That'll just get her pissed.
2007-02-05 21:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by clashingtaco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't put up with the rude very long regardless of any disagreements you might have about religion. And I would tell her if she's rude, even if it does sound a little mean.
2007-02-05 21:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ken H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask for what you want....she's not just going to know how you feel.
You're right she should respect your religion.....maybe you can tell her that religion is off limits and you guys can talk about everything else....just not that.
If she's a true friend she'll do as you ask.
2007-02-05 21:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. Just tell her that your beliefes are not wrong its what you have been brought up with and you are comfortable with it. Tell her you do believe in God and that your beliefs are different and please lay off on the religion stuff because it is something that bothers you when you care for her so much. Take care Heather
2007-02-05 21:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋