My wife wants to go out for the evening with me, however; I do not want to go, what should I do? Why? How can both of us decide what is fair or right in way that is itself fair or right?
2007-02-05 13:00:00 · 36 answers · asked by H4X0Rshocks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go out with her tonite and then tomorrow night spend time at home doing something fun together... Give and take here. You should give and so should she in this... Basically take turns here.
2007-02-05 13:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a one time thing or a common occurrence? I need more info.
But here's some advice from me.
I'm in the military and when my wife lived with me, it was in a place she was unfamiliar with b/c of my duty station. She also didn't have a license so she couldn't drive. I would go to work any where between 4 and 10 hours a day and at the time all I wanted to do when I got home was relax, play video games, that kind of thing. Where I was stationed there wasn't a bus line or anything near our home, and it was really hot.
So basically she was couped up all day. When I got home she would then want to spend time with me and have me take her out; anywhere. Alone or for me to arrange group things so that she could meet other people.
Well I didn't want to, and I always told her no, because I was tired. I just didn't get it. She became bitter and angry, and then we began fighting all the time. And that is exactly how my marriage fell apart, because I ignored her and I didn't like hearing her scream and complain. I never did make things right, instead I callously sent her away because I didn't want to hear her nag.
So because I said "No" (every time) I lost my wife, my suggestion is to hold onto yours. Now that I've grown up I wish I could change things, but for us it's already over.
That doesn't mean you have to say "Yes" all the time, but make sure you don't always say "No" either.
2007-02-12 15:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to go out with her? I think that's the more important question. If you don't go out often it is definately a good idea to take her out like you did when you were dating. Then maybe next time you can stay home and engage in some type of fun activity together. Many couples have date nite. It helps you get out of the rut of always staying home and watching tv.
Take your wife out every now and then and show her that she's still special to you.
2007-02-13 09:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey guy, marriage is sharing. Go out with your wife and have the best time possible. There will be a time when you will want her to go with you to a place she may not enjoy either, but she will go.
If you dont learn how to share and go with her you may be sorry some day. There are a lot of guys looking for cute ladies and she might just be the one.
2007-02-12 07:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to go out? That is the core of the problem. Do you not want to go to a certain place? Or do you not want to go with her? Or not out in general?
You need to answer those questions and then you both need to come up with some kind of compromise so both of your feelings are not hurt and you both can satisfy what the other wants.
2007-02-05 13:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by libabeinphilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why if you dot what to got out for a evening do this just make her a nice romantic dinner and red wine with candles and music and dot forget Rosa's and treat her like a queen .
this is fair if you dot what to go out just have fun in you're house, ha,ha,
Good Luck?
2007-02-13 02:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you want to go out with your wife? Do you want to sit at home on your own on the couch? If you don't want to go out with your wife, why did you get married?
It's ok to go out for the evening with your wife. How about a toss of the coin, heads you go, tails you stay.
If you don't socialise with your wife, there's a good chance you'll eventually get to sit at home alone all the time.
2007-02-05 13:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how hard can it be to go out with her for the evening? your gona have some serious marital problems if you ignore her, she just wants to make some memories, or get out of a rut. whats fair is that, okay in just one week you dont go out seven times, so going out once,,,, how damn hard can that be..lazy or cheap or anti-social? just keep your wife and go on a date.
2007-02-13 10:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jacquelyn V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go and then the next time compromise and let it be your turn to decide what to do but usually when a women tells you that she wants to go out there is a reason like they feel too cooped up or something i mean pay attention to your womens needs!!!!!!!!
2007-02-05 13:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask you self why you dont want to go . be true full, do you still love your wife ? has she changed a lot. are you ashamed of being seen with her ? all fair questions you must ask your self and be honest if yes to any of the questions ask yourself why. if you still love her have a night out after all what is one night in so many.good luck
2007-02-13 02:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If each one of you love the other more than you love yourself you will learn to put someone else needs and desire before yours and you wouldn't worry about what's fair or right!! You will be concern about making each other happy!! Marriage is a selfless venture not a selfish one!!
2007-02-13 09:40:36 · answer #11 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋