GIRLS:how come she crys? am i hurting her?

Question

every time i have sex wit my gf she crys cuz it hurts, im not tryin to hurt her, wat can i do so i dont hurt her, she told me im not being rough, so wat can i do to help her, the DR's says nothin is wrong and that she is in perfect health, wat am I doing wrong cuz its cause us not to have sex alot, and when we do she crys and insists we go on but i dont like to see her crying so i try to make her better, wats wrong wit her? its only her private area that hurts we use lubricant and she still really hurts, shes a smaller lady, could i be to big for her?

Answer 1

Maybe she needs to relax a little? Do you like do stuff(foreplay) before or do you just get right to it?

Answer 2

I think that the pain your girlfriend feels may be more psycological in basis than physical- if she has had an exam by the doctor and he found no physical explainations. If the vaginal muscles are tightened during penetration, it will be painful for her- regardless of how gentle you are or even if you use lubricant. I suspect your girlfriend is not as comfortable with your sexual relationship as you might wish. It could be due to her upbringing, and how she views sex. If she was raised to preserve her virginity until marriage, it could be she feels guilty for not waiting. She may feel that sex is the only way to preserve your relationship, and is willing to do this with you even though she doesn't really wish to. She may also be stressed over worry about pregnancy. You did not mention using any sort of birth control, and if she is risking getting pregnant, that would also tend to make things difficult for her. There are many reasons why she could be experiencing physical pain during intercourse that have nothing to do with actual physical conditions. I suggest you have an honest and open heart discussion with her about this matter, and determine if there are other things interfering with her enjoyment. You size would not likely be so large as to be the explaination. Vaginal design is very accomodating to a great variety in sizes, and a woman old enough to have sex should have no problems in that area. I think you need to look beyond the body and to the mind for your solution.

Answer 3

Make sure she is relaxed. If she is tense, then her muscles are tense, causing you to have to force yourself inside of her, causing pain. Try some foreplay. Make sure she is wet enough, even if you do use a lubricant, she should still be naturally wet, to prevent pain. Also, make sure you go slow, and if she doesn't cry you can speed it up, but don't just go rough right away. Also, you may want to try some different positions, some positions are more intense then others, causing pain. I know that I am a lot more comfortable in certain positions, so I would try different ones. Goodluck! :)

Answer 4

She may have some underlying issues that have nothing to do with you. I'm talking mentally, not physically. There is no such thing as a man being "too big." The vagina is designed to stretch for childbirth. Perhaps she should see a therapist about this.

Answer 5

My suggestion would be to talk to her and see whether you can see what is hurting. There maybe a medical solution to the problem or a technique problem. Talk to her and see what's up

Answer 6

no i think thats just the way she is some people r like that but i think u really need to see another doc and talk to ur gf to see what HER problem is

Answer 7

why would you even continue to have sex with someone who's crying? that would freak me out. you need to stop and find out whats going on - physically or emotionally

Answer 8

slow down big boy...does this happen in different positions as well? because if its painfull one way it may not be in other ways.