I'm wondering if this is normal or not. I am extremely worried about what people think, both friends and strangers, and feel like I constantly embarrass myself with the things I say and do. We're not talking BAD-embarrasing things but just silly-embarrasing. Afterwards (sometime for several days or more) I will berate myself and feel horribly ashamed for whatever foolish thing I said or did. Is there some way to overcome this? It is a major source of stress in my life.
2007-02-05 12:52:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I just wanna add, usually other people don't say anything to make me feel worse, it's all in my own head. Also, I can usually laugh it off at the time in front of everybody but it's later at the end of the day I play it over and over again in my head...
2007-02-05 13:00:20 · update #1
You have the social police in your head, and they are not your friends, so FIRE them Do you realise that people do nto give a darn about what you say and do. Does every thing some one says and does with you do you remember each and every word as well as movement, No it is not possible, unless YOU remind us or make a big deal out of it and this is usually for attention seekers
2007-02-05 13:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI. Yes this is completely normal and something that most people go through. You are still getting to know how to behave socially and who you are socially and being confident in social situations.
Being a "social butterfly" is a learned behavior. Some people learn it from a very young age hon and so it comes a bit more easy than others. Keep PRACTICING and you will get the hang of it.
As with anything in life, don't be ashamed or so hard on yourself for making mistakes in this process. Like any mistake made, learn from it and move on. Remember people around you are learning too! And like you said, most of this is in your head so it is probably just insecurities and you are most likely doing better than you think!! You'll get more comfortable with time.
2007-02-05 13:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is normal. Sounds like your self confidence is way low. Probably because of your childhood incidents. Do some journaling about your childhood and see if you can get to the root of your problem. When you find the root of your problem, tell your self that those people were wrong. And now you don't have to live with other peoples past judgments filling your head. Give yourself positive affirmations.
2007-02-05 14:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about, I do the same thing. Its part worrying, and part paranoia about what others think of us. As I have gotten older I have gotten over it a little. Still happens though.
2007-02-05 13:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS THE SAME WAY!!! trust me, simply put, all u gotta do is to learn to lagh at ur mistakes. even if u don feel like laughing, itll make u feel better, n ppl will respect the fact that u seem to not care that u say watevers on ur mind, regardless of wat haters wanna say. if u don wanna beat ur self up about dum stuf like that, thats how u gotta think about it. theyre all haters i say!! hat3rZs!!!
2007-02-05 12:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by xLA NENA . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey lady, I know this may sound weird, but you have to center your chi...which means you have to get to a point where people don't have any control over you. People suck :P
2007-02-05 12:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋