OK SO MY HUSBAND HAS GOTTEN IN CONTACT WITH ONE OF HIS EX' S... WEL TO BE EXACT ITS THE ONE HE LOST HIS VIRGINTY TO. THEY ARE NOW TALKING ON THE MYSPACE WEBSITE....HE WANTS TO GO OUT TO LUNCH WITH ER ONE DAY AND CATCH UP BECAUSE THEY HAVENT TALKED IN OVER 2 1/2 YEARS.... ANY WAY HE SEEMS AS THOUGH HE WANTS TO GO BY HIS SELF BUT THEN HE ASKED ME IF I WANTED TO GO WITH HIM... HE JUST SEEMS AS THOUGH HE WOULD LIKE TO GO NY HIMSELF.... SO DO YOU THINK IT IS OK FOR ME TO LET HIM GO BY HIS SELF TO LUNCH WITH HER OR SHOULD I GO ALONG WITH HIM EVEN THOUGH HE DOESNT WANT ME TO????????????
2007-02-05 12:37:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry for all the caps hit caps key by mistake sorry ....
2007-02-05 12:48:07 · update #1
i dont know, usually its not a good sign if someone wants to see their ex, i sure as hell dont want to see any of mine......especially since he is married..... why the hell does he need to see her? i wouldnt let him go alone..... the bigger question for me is even why he is talking to her, that bothers me more..... good luck
2007-02-05 12:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should forbid it period!! What possible reason could there be for him to be going out with his x? Do they have a child or children together? If not is a no go! What could they possibly have to talk about? How the hell did they even get in contact with each other? Talking on MySpace huh? LOL Something does not seem right here AT ALL! He is offering up the sacrificial "Well, do you wanna go?" hoping to make you feel guilty (witch it has or else you wouldn't be on here questioning it.) so that you naturally will refuse. Make no mistake...he does want to go alone.
Remind him that he is not very "smooth" or "cunning" what-so-ever, tell him that as long as he is with you his penis will stay in his pants and his X as far away from the both of them (penis and pants.) as possible.
2007-02-05 12:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ugh, what a mess! Seems like you have trust issues...has he done something in the past to make you question his fidelity? I would be leary if he seems to be wanting to go alone :P It almost seems like padding to say you could go...to convince you that everything is ok. If you dont want him to have lunch with her, tell him, also express that it would hurt your feelings. If he has a problem with it, then ask him...which relationship is more important>? BUT do not appraoch him with a confrontational attitude..approach it tenderly and with tact...you do not want to make it seem like an attack because anyone would defend for themselves if they believe they are being attacked...and do you blame them?
But I dont know..I am not a professional and all relationships are special. :) Good Luck Deary!
2007-02-05 12:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by boodini2@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first question: why does he want to "catch up" with an ex? Especially this particular one. You are his wife and should be the #1 person on his list period. Trust is most important in your relationship. If it were my husband he would want me to go but to be honest he wouldn't be talking to an ex online either. I hope i don't sound harsh in any way. Just ask yourself those questions. If she is married does her husband know she is talking to your husband and would "catching up" even be possible for her? You are the one he married and deserve total respect. Would he let you go on lunch dates with your ex's? I hope i helped in someway. goodluck.
2007-02-05 12:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by aubrie27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Don't be a damned tard woman! Don't let him effing go at all!
F$#k him that he hasn't seen her in 2-a half years. THat's not even very long at all!
I haven't seen the guy I loved to bang in over 10 years, does that give me permission to go see him alone when I've gotten in touch with him and have an old times sake hump?
2007-02-05 12:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband shouldn't even be contacting an EX at all. You have more problems than him going with or without you to lunch with this woman. Soon you will be on here telling all us how he is cheating on you but you didn't have a clue. This is your clue lady wake up...
2007-02-05 12:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go...just so that both of them knew that he is taken. Otherwise if you do not go you are going to wonder what happened and so on. plus if he is happily married to you, then he would want to include you in on this lunch. You may feel a little left out while they catch up....but at least they will not be relighting any old flames.
2007-02-05 12:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go with him. He can catch up and be himself you are his wife. They will not be able to catch up the way they want and if you are there, then nothing funny with happen. Don't let him go alone, be playful and tell him you are very curious about her too and that you would really love to meet her and get to know her too. Take care Heather
2007-02-05 12:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it bothers you but I'm sure that everything will be ok if you go alone. The fact that he told you is a sure sign of trust. Show him the same back. Besides if you go you 3 are all going to be very uncomfortable.
2007-02-05 13:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take it easy on the caps, it's annoying. Second, he's a husband, not a marionette puppet. If he wants to go, let him go. There's nothing wrong with catching up on old times, that doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you. Maybe you need to work out your own insecurities.
2007-02-05 12:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well go with him. If he asked you to go, you should go whether he was asking you out of politeness or not. I don't know why exactly he wants to see his ex, but you should definently go with him. Myspace is so bad for people finding their ex's, i swear it's the only reason why people go on there.
2007-02-05 12:41:48 · answer #11 · answered by firstlove021 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋