This question is primarily for chicks but I guess guys can answer too, if they have any thoughts on the matter. I move approximately once every 1.5 years, which gives me enough time to make some good friends, right? But it seems like everywhere I go, I make tons of guy friends really easily and quickly, but I haven't made any new super close girl friends since high school (six years ago). Even through college.. I mostly just got close to dudes.
It just seems like most girls want to talk about things I find kind of boring, and I'm totally not trying to sound "holier than thou." It's a real problem with me and I am wondering if any other girls experience this. It seems like the girls I do find interesting have boyfriends or something and have no extra space in their life for a new friend. Guys just aren't that way. They always want new people to chill with.
And I'm NOT a tomboy or anywhere near.
As a girl reading this, tell me your thoughts, please.
2007-02-05 12:33:34 · 14 answers · asked by of 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am and mostly have had guy or male friends my whole life. I did have friends who were girls when I was younger, but I alway's prefered to hang out with the guys. I was a Cheerleader and did all that stuff, but I also climbed treas, and trained on my brother's baseball team. I am now older and I still prefer men over women, I have worked with men in my adult life. I have had bad expereinces with girls who have been my friends, esp. when they compete with you, or want to date the guy you might be with. I am not saying all girls are the same, but there is a lot of cattiness and meanness with girls and women. I feel my guy friends don't judge me as much, there easier to talk to and hang out with, and there's no beauty competetion with one another. I like to joke, and just hang out, I like to watch football at times, I don't know, I was raised in the Military, and one thing I found out is that my guy friends have my back, and we are just friends, nothing more, and I learn some things from them, and they learn from me. It is nice to have a girl friend that you can trust, but my friends are married and I understand they have their obligation's but we were friends before they got married, and some seem to forget that or get wrapped up over some guy. I also am not a tomboy, I know there are somethings you need to tell a girl and not a guy, if your into sports, or anything with girls, all you can do is see if someone wants to hang out, I don't see anything wrong with having mostly guy friends. The guy's know how I am and I don't always go along with them, if I can hang out and watch one of their movies, then they can sit and watch one of my mine. A true guy friend will sit and watch lifetime with you! Ilol! I do wish you the best, and their can be so many reasons, but there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-02-05 12:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by fighterprincess15 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way. Women have different personalities and some are harder to get along with. I find it easier to get along with the guys because they dont go through the moodswings, they are just more laid back. Im cool with everyone i just always found it easier and more comfortable around men but you said your not i tom boy. I am. im feminine but i like sports watching sports on t.v. im not into talking about boys on the phone and dwelling on personal problems and a lot of women tend to want to sit on the phone for hours and gossip and talk about that sort of thing. I have a few homegirls that i would truly say are cool and easy to be around only because were the same. they have boyfriends they just make time to chill out with me and go clubbin to get away from their man. me and my homegirl go out every wednesday and friday. Chicks before dycks thats the motto.
2007-02-05 12:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by meka g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because girls are more clique-ish. They're generally not as open and easygoing as guys. I had the same problem (Army Brat) and I had problems making girl friends, too. Guys are generally more fun to hang out with. They're funny, and friendly, and not catty. Many girls have this "Every Woman For Herself" mentality and see other girls as competition in this race called Life. Guys are generally more go-with-the-flow, "eh, whatever." (Not all...I've met some catty guys and some easygoing girls, but generally, this is true...) Girls just don't open up as easily as guys do, probably because they're more sensitive and more easily offended.
2007-02-05 12:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by trudy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While i don't think its cool that you say that just because a girl has a boyfriend they won't be friends with you, I understand what you are saying! I am the same way, I can make friends with almost any guy but not with very many girls.I think its because girls are either very clickish or that they are very sensitive to new girls in their life.Maybe its just cause they are scared of losing there friends to someone that they think is better.I think girls just as a rule are threatened easy or insecure.
2007-02-05 12:39:31 · answer #4 · answered by brat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well thats cuz maybe ur more close to boys then to girls. and if u do want to hav a girl as a friend then whenever u do go to a girl try talking about things u like talking about. im not saying this will 100% work. but trying it doesn't hurt.
2007-02-05 12:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier to make friends with guys because we are "low-maintenance". We generally like the same stuff such as sport, video games, movies, drinking etc., we only differ when it comes to variants (as in the type of sport, video game titles, beer brands...) So it's easy to find something similar with guys, unlike girls wherein you have alot of deciphering to do...
2007-02-05 12:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by benildean_blazer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also find it easier to get to know guys and I think it has to do that they are usually more laid back and don't anaylize or judge the things you do, mostly they seem more accepting, with girls you have to earn their trust, with guys you just need to keep it,
2007-02-05 12:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by EC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some girls can be really sketchy, and hard to figure out. Maybe you like the simpleness boys have compared to girls....also I dont think girls let other girls into their comfort zone as quickly as guys let girls in
2007-02-05 12:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by lexybaby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys probly want to know more about you but not like you. guys are easier to make friends with because they dont act like us girls.
2007-02-05 12:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by angelicalopez03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-08 22:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋