Hes calling apologozin ,cryin.. My parents told me to let him ride... should i take the ring back... what should i do... I love him but i dont want to let him in so quick or should i listen to my parents....................................
2007-02-05 12:33:31 · 6 answers · asked by Mickey B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's some bad temper. I would only take him back if he got counseling, anger management stuff. This time he took the ring back. What happens next time he gets mad? Calls off the wedding? Or, if you're already married, he kicks you out? I know a lady where her husband shoved her out of the house in her nightgown in the middle of the night and locked then barricaded the doors. She had to go to a neighbor's house to call her parents to come get her.
If your parents have those kind of ugly, tempermental fights then they're in no position to give you advice because they're stuck in the same abusive situation. If they DON'T have those kind of ugly tempermental fights then they're in no position to give you advice since they don't understand the syndrome.
The crying is a tip-off. Abusers LOVE to cry afterwards and say they're sorry. Yeah, right. They get mad and cause hurt, either physically or emotionally, then they think you "owe" it tthem to forgive them because they cry and say they're sorry. That's just not good enough. If he's really sorry, he'll get help in making sure that he never hurts you this way again. Make him get anger management counseling. If he doesn't, he's going to keep hurting you until you wise up and dump him.
2007-02-05 12:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Red Wolf Queen 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fights are part of everyone's relationships. Have they happened before? Frequently? Maybe they are just a part of him and who he is. Do you want that type of person as your husband? If he fights with you a lot what would happen if you had kids? How would he treat them?But, the real question is... did this one change how you feel about him or not? If it changed how you feel about him in a bad way then maybe you should try working things out, but not take back the ring yet. And try to work it out and then if you are still in love take the ring back. If it didn't change the way you feel then take things slowly and if you still feel the same then take it back. But if things change and not for the good and then they stay like that... maybe he isn't the man for you and do you want the wrong man and to go through a divorce soon in the marriage?? Think about how you want to aproach the situation towards him. Remember he will try to win you back! Trust yourself! Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-05 12:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by loving live:) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A marriage is a business. Can you work with someone who behaves like your b/f? Not me. I'm not interested in spoiled brats. Raise your inner child to be worth more than a brat. Pump up your self-esteem and don't value yourself so low that you would even CONSIDER being with an abusive person.
2007-02-05 13:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I'd do like your parents are suggesting...let it ride. Hopefully if has to live with his bad choice of words a little while longer it won't happen again. Good luck!!
2007-02-05 12:40:59 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend did that 2 days ago,but I forgive him because I Love him very much,listen to your heart,not what anybody else tell you because in the end who is going to suffer is you and by your self.Good luck!!
2007-02-05 13:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty serious if the things he said amount to abuse. What you want to do is to let him know way down deep that he can't abuse you the way he did. Abuse is a deal breaker and he needs to understand that and do whatever he needs to do to not do it again. You are right to be concerned. Is this a pattern?
2007-02-05 12:39:39 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋