Should ones spouse need to ask to go out with their friends without you? You serious opinion.
2007-02-05 12:20:46 · 21 answers · asked by Lee R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you think it would be considered demeaning to make your spouse ask permision?
2007-02-05 16:55:23 · update #1
Well, it's polite to ask not for permission but to ensure that your male-bonding extravaganza doesn't interfere with any plans your spouse may have had.
So the question isn't
"Honey, can I go out with my friends Friday night?"
but instead
"Honey, I'm planning to go out with my friends Friday night. Does that interfere with anything?"
It's polite to let your spouse know what you doing and when. Maybe you wanted to go out with your friends but she had just bought new lingerie and diagrams of new positions to surprise you and you missed out on an amazing night of hot, steamy sex because you didn't double check that your plans didn't interfere with hers.
Also, it goes both ways. She too is obligated to inform you of any of her plans that don't involve you. It's just common courtesy,
2007-02-05 12:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I think couples should discuss their activities and whether those activities will be solo or not. It's just basic communication with your spouse,it should never become a twenty questions full of mistrust. Both people need to have time with their friends and family away from their spouse,you have one relationship built by two people.
2007-02-05 20:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they shouldn't have to ask permission. It's not like they're your parents. However, I think it's courteous to make sure they don't have anything else planned or whatever. Sort of like, "Hey, honey, the guys wanted to watch the game on Sunday at Frank's house." Just so she knows that you have these plans, so she doesn't schedule something for you two to do that would conflict with it. Or, if it's her, she should tell you that she's planning on going shopping with the girls on Wednesday. Or whatever. Because you are married, so it's your spouse's privilege to know. If you DON'T tell them, they might think you're hiding something. If you don't have anything to hide, it shouldn't be a big deal to casually mention your plans.
2007-02-05 20:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by trudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because your spouse maybe has plans for you two to go out together. And besides you are not alone when you're married, You must find out if it's okay. I ask my husband and he asks me. If you're a couple it's only fair to your spouse if you ask incase your spouse wants to go out or be with you.
2007-02-05 20:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be polite to ask your spouse so that she can tell you if she might have had plans for that evening. My husband always asks and usually its fine with me but I like that he has told me who and where he is going, I would also give him the same respect when I need a girls night.
2007-02-05 20:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by LondonLou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no question of asking here. You are an adult. However, it is so nice to discuss it with your spouse. He too will feel good about it and you will surely have his blessings.
You will want your children to grow up like that . Wont you? Well set an example. Start here.
2007-02-05 20:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...do you expect her to ask you? Really, out of respect for each other you should ask..but, should not be required to ask. There is a difference. Everyone needs time with their own friends, as long as you are not doing anything that would be disrespectful to your spouse.
2007-02-05 20:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps not "ask" per se. I think, rather, one should "discuss" with one's spouse the activities in which they will partake. It's kind of uncaring to say "I'm going out whether you like it or not", and it's equally uncaring to expect one's spouse to not have activities and friends outside the marriage.
2007-02-05 20:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by BigRichGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that each partner should have the freedom to come and go as long as they don't violate the trust in the relationship. If that man or that woman insists in wedging themself in every moment of that other persons life they will start making the other person resent them. Everybody deserves thier freedom and space. A relationship does not mean you do EVERYTHING together. It means that you commit to get all of your sexual and romantic attention needs tended to by one person. Outside of that the other person should be free.
2007-02-05 20:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is respectful to ask if there are any other plans and if not do you mind if I go out with so and so for a few hours. I would do the same if I was going out with my friends. Just let her know.
2007-02-05 20:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Elle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋