how come i cant cry when....?

Question

OK... so lately my friends dog died and i started thinking of my two labs that died really sadly (brain tumor na dold age) also my grandpa has cancer and we can never predict whne he might you know pass. i am extremely sad and i feel like im about to cry hard but the tears dont come.

this my sound stupid but could it be be cuz i cryed recently or is there sumthing worng with me. and plz im not crying cuz it dusnt strike me as sad in fact im really reallly reallly sad.

so anyone know?

Answer 1

Honey there is nothing wrong with you. Though if you cry enough it is possible to become dehydrated, I doubt this is your problem. Everyone grieves in their own way. There is never a right or wrong way to grieve; and don't let anyone try to convince you otherwise. You will cry when the time is right for YOU not anyone else. It may be when you least expect it.

I remember when I was around 13 and my grandmother passed away. My dad was mad at me because I wouldn't cry on cue. I was sad but I couldn't cry. I cried later when I was ready to cry.

My mother passed away almost a year ago and my 7 year old never cried. He was very close to his grandmother and I thought he would be devastated when she passed. She was sick for awhile and I think he grieved enough when she was near death that he didn't have a lot left when she did pass.

You are at a time in your life where things are hard enough for you. You have a lot of angst about school, friends, and other things that come along with adolescence. You don't need to put added pressure on yourself to act a certain way.

Take care and I hope that you find peace during these difficult times.

Carmen

Answer 2

I know...this happens to me, too. Sometimes I feel really emotional and I'd cry at something sad (or even something that's not sad!), and some of that is just random, and other aspects are hormones. But perhaps you've been desensitized lately because of something...I know usually I don't cry anymore if someone (my parent?) yells at me (I used to cry when I was young when my parents yelled at me), because I realize now that they'll only yell harder BECAUSE I'm crying. So I became desensitized to it. But other things I'll cry at...books, musicals, movies, etc. And sometimes I don't, but I feel like I could have. Like I said earlier, some of that is random, and the rest might be aspects of emotions/hormones. I'm sure this is nothing wrong with you or a problem...just some things get you down and some things don't...and sometimes even the things that get you down don't make you cry. And sometimes they do! I think it all seems pretty random, really.

Answer 3

You can't just turn your tears on like that but if you have cried for a while then when you think about it it feels like you have cried enough but if you want to cry to show your sadness so people won't judge you stare at a spot for a long time (you will cry). Tears aren't the only way to show your sadness you might just not cry over things like that.You may be expressing it in anger or other ways just not realizing it.

P.S. I am so sory for your lose.

Answer 4

Sometimes you just save it all up inside until your alone, and then it all comes out. Thats what I did when my Mom and Dad died, and my pets. For some reason, you hold up in front of others because you just feel as though you have to. Sometimes it all catches up with you at a later date. My youngest daughter, all her life had a delayed reaction to everything, but thats just the way she is, and everyone is different! Dont worry, your fine!

Answer 5

I feel the same way sometimes, but it isn't hard for me to cry. I mostly cry when I'm alone. When I attend funerals of people I knew, I feel sad in the inside, but I hold in my tears. Some say that they are embarrassed to cry in public.

Answer 6

its ok if u dont cry right away or at all about a death.everyone expresses their feelings in a different way. all i can say is be there for your friend and try to spend as much time as u can with your grandpa.

Answer 7

I symatize with your situation. I don't cry easily either. Maybe it was what you learned in your childhood by example or by being told such things as "big girls don't cry" or "don't be a crybaby." Maybe you could have a good cry at night alone in your bed. You would feel better if you could.

Answer 8

Everyone expresses their grief in their own way. I didn't cry at any of the funerals of my family. But I did cry later on, but still not much. There's no shame in not crying, you just do what feels right to you. Don't force it.

Answer 9

try drinking more water