Do you really need friends?

Question

I mean, honestly, no smart a$$ answers.

I might sound like a total jerk, but i find my school work is far more important than friends. And lately my grades haven't been meeting MY standards. I've tried different studying tips and all, but i figured out that my friends are a distraction. And i want to end any realationships with them. So, are they really an essential part of life or what?

Also, so people get another idea, i don't go out with them, since i'm always studying, so i really only see them at school. Even then we're not in each others classes too often this semester, so i believe it would be a bit easier if i just slowly stopped coming around.



i know, i know i sound like a jerk, but i was raised to put work before play, and, quite frankly, my work needs more attention right now.

btw, for all the 'stand up comedians' out there, i already am considered a loner, thank you. I might as well be a full-fledged loner, aye?

ok..i didn't completely specify. I'm not failing or anything..i'm not even close to failing. I'm considered a "perfectionist"

Answer 1

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Your friends DEFINTELY are an important part of your life. You are certianly wise to want to concentrate on your schooling, but friends give you so much you need in life. Advice, laughter, fun, a shoulder to cry on, a social life...

Then again, it depends on what types of friends you have. You have all perfectly nice friends, that are always there for you and have never done anytihng wrong, don't drop them. If you're really worried about your work you can limit hanging out time. But if you get rid of all your friends and one day you need some help, you'll be sorry.

If your friends really are a distraction, tell them the situation. If they are nice people, they will respect you.

If they aren't... drop them. This is the time to give thme a STRONG conversation. If they aren't meeting your standards, get rid of them. No friend is a friend that doesn't act like a friend to you. So if you find ALL your friends are like this- GET NEW FRIENDS! You'll want them one day, evne if it's not now.

It's not like having friends is something that wears you down. Something you have to drag around. If you want to cool it, tell them. But you'll be sorry if you choose the friendless way.

Answer 2

No, you don't sound like a jerk at all. Personally, I don't find them an essential part of life when they are detrimental to what I need. You do what you need to do to graduate. I did the same thing and I felt a tremendous relief. There will be time enough for friends and socializing when you are ready. Right now, who needs the distractions? I feel sorry for people who cannot be alone and who rely on others for their happiness. Happiness comes from within the self.

Best luck and take care.

You are right. There is a time to work and a time to play. You have to take care of yourself and prepare yourself for your life. There is nothing wrong with focusing on work. You will be better prepared to help others after you have helped yourself. Be strong.

Please note...you are not a jerk.

Answer 3

DO NOT break up your relationship with your friends! except if you really just hate them. if you like them as friends and your are in the middle of schoolwork standards and friendship, then you should not give it up! it's like you're trying to balance it all together. i think i know what you mean and i have been through it.

do your best in school. about your friends, tell them to cool off for awhile. if they say that they simply don't care about grades, tell them it mean a lot to you. everyone has different goals and things they think are important. so tell them that and say for you, grades is important to you and you want to work hard to achieve it.

in class, pay attention and take note if needed. get more help from teachers and don't be afraid to ask. at study hall or free time or whatever it's called there, talk with your friends and have fun. at home, do your homework right away and don't plan anything if possible on weekdays. on weekends, make plans to go out with your friends so they don't feel apart from you.

Answer 4

I can understand what you are saying about your grades and being distracted. But I don't think cutting yourself off completely from your friends is the answer. Just try to make sure you study and get homework done before you socialize.
Having friends may not be an essential part of life but they can make your life a lot happier.

Answer 5

From time to time, in life, we have to shrink our circle, and that can mean leaving out/leaving behind friends or loved ones. If you really think you need less time with them, then make that call. Not only was I a lousy friend all through college, but even dumped a guy because he was too much effort during Senior Project. I understand what you're saying.

But I don't suggest cutting them out entirely. Down time with friends is infinitely important, for fun, laughter, connection, healing... the right friends are a absolute blessing. Friends are vital for sanity!! (Well, for mine anyways.)

My suggestion is to admit you're overwhelmed, and gently but firmly request a hiatus from the group, until you can get a grip on everything you've got going on. (Even if you think it's their fault your grades are slipping, don't blame them - blame yourself. Because once your grades go up, you'll be wanting them around again, and you don't want to waste time having to "make up" with them because they're ticked off at you.)

Smart chicks rule!

Answer 6

just know that if u give up on them and bad times go on there not gonna be there ull be on ur own friends cry if u cry they will beat sumones @$$ for u and ur family dosent understand as good as friends and if they distract u tell them be open minded and not to mean but ur friends r the only thing that matter most so take advantage of that and socialize.

Answer 7

i mean it is good to be focused on school but come on seriously my friends mean the world to me u can work hard in school and have good grades and still have friends , friends r there for u through every thing and i no this is going to coem off as mean and stuff but it really is the truth peopel r going to make fun of u for not haveing any friends its not me its just how people r but i think it is really important to have friends they r with u through good times and bad i have a feeling u have really strict parents who push u hard which can be good but u need to have soem fun

Answer 8

Depends how dependent you are on the social interaction. It would adversely affect some people. You would be the best judge of whether or not you need friends in your life.

Answer 9

dont completly ignor them
you never know
tomorrow something horrible could happen and your not gonna have any one there to help you threw it.
family can help, but how much of there s h i t are you gonna put up with?

Answer 10

unless you wanna be a friendless lonly loser, then yes, you need friends