How long should someone be together before they talk about marriage?

Question

How long should a couple be together before talking about a marriage proposal comes up in conversation?

I am 21, he is 22.
We have been together for 6 years.
And the only reason im asking is not because im not ready, i just wanted peoples opinions...

Answer 1

There is no set time, because spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical maturity is unique in each person according to God's plan. Unfortunately, people jump into marriage and assume it is a fairytale. The whole "love at first sight" phase is indeed wonderful, but how long are you willing to love your spouse through the good and the bad? Are you ready to lean on God for understanding, for patience, and for strength when you deal with your spouse's flaws and misunderstandings? Most marriages fail because God is not in their marriage. And if you don't include God in marriage, then you cannot understand how God loves unconditionally. If you cannot understand God's love, then how can you possibly love your spouse unconditionally and stay in that marriage? You may be tempted to leave or to give up during the tough times, but always remember: Love = commitment and constant faith in God. If people say they got divorced because they "fell out of love", then they need to reevaluate why they even got married in the first place. Fall in love, and make sure you stay in that love no matter how many times your spouse may drive you nuts! You will look back, and realize what a MIRACLE marriage is, and how precious a gift it can be. Trust me, I know:)

Answer 2

Depends on several things
*How old the couple is. It's best to wait until your older and more mature than two 18 years olds.
*How in love the couple is. If your unsure if you love them or not its not time to get married. when the time comes you will know
*How long they have been together. If the couple has not been together for a full year thus far i would not recommend marriage. it is important to get to know each other fully before making a committment
*How convienent is the timing. If you are both working and giong to school to pay ther rent each month it is not best to get married. you dont want to add planning a wedding to the stress already in your life. choose a convienent time.

Answer 3

This totally depends on circumstances. For adults, two years.
However, you may have been together a long time as teens, but you certainly have not as adults. Your brains aren't even fully developed until you are 25! Both of you need to finish your post-secondary education, get jobs, live out on your own independently, and live in reality paying your own rent, bills, etc. You will grow in life experience. Lots of things change when you are in your 20s, out in the Big World.

Answer 4

There really is not a set time that is universally apropriate, it could be to soon in after 10 years for some couples, and others could now after a week, but make sure you really know the person, Personally I think a year is the minimum I would consider dating before mariage but like I said that won't work for everybody

Answer 5

People should have talked about their views on marriage, children and family early on in a monogamous relationship to ensure they both want the same things in the future. After about a year of exclusive, committed dating, it's probably time to talk seriously about a future together. 18 months is about right for a proposal. If you haven't talked about your future together after 2 years and you're over the age of 25, it's time to.

Answer 6

My BF and i talked about it before we dated .. we didn't want to get into a relationship unless we thought it would go somewhere like marriage...all of our Friends are getting married this year so we are really talking about it alot more these days. We've been together 8 months. But i think its up to you i think everyones differant you can't set times and dates on conversations like that. its not a rushed decision to make so take your time!

Answer 7

I've seen it come up very early in some relationships and that may be fine. However, I would recommend waiting a full year before actually exchanging vows. That time frame should allow for any and all nasty habits to come to light. You then have to decide if the bad habits are worth putting up with for a life time.

Answer 8

There is no set time limit. But a good guideline is a year. That way you get to see them through all the seasons.

Please note that all of the successful marriages in my family barely dated a year, usually less than 6 months. We move fast in my family.

Answer 9

Depends on the couple. I would say, a year is probably a good mark. My parents got married after dating for 2 months, and they're still married after 33+ years. So, whatever works for the individuals.

Answer 10

There is no certain time set in stone.

Some couples know right away, some never figure it out.

Just remember when you do make the commitment you need to work on it everyday. Marriage/partnership takes work it does not work just because you signed your marriage license!