2007-02-05 11:48:13 · 12 answers · asked by jessica g 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Politics
encourage her to talk to her counselor or a trusted teacher at school. Or her pastor/priest or even a police officer. Why doesn't she want anyone to know? Who is she protecting? If they are abusing her SHE is the one who needs protected. You should also talk to your parents about this....maybe they can help as well. Good luck....
2007-02-05 11:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the option of telling a school social worker or school counselor or you can call the police if you know she is in the process of being abused; whatever you say will be held in the strictest of confidence; you may also call Child Welfare Services, and they WILL go over immediately and investigate and remove her from the home if they find cause to do so, like if she's endangered or under threat of being battered or similar.
MAKE CERTAIN that this is the truth. Too often, false accusations can have serious and/or grave unforeseen consequences.
BE her friend. Let the situation be investigated. You may be the one saving her life, or helping her so that she WILL have a near normal life in the future. Surely she needs some counseling (even if her parents do not seek counseling or therapy for their alcoholism). Again, BE a friend! Best wishes.
2007-02-05 19:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try this: call AA, get a booklet with all their meetings(they'll send it to you), and then send this to your friend's parent. Be supportive to your friend. Suggest to your friend to try to talk to the parent.
Alcoholism is a disease. It is not weakness of the person unable to stop drinking. It is an actual and very progressive disease and the only way to control it is by not drinking, but being an alcoholic the person CANNOT stop drinking that easily. Maybe your friend can talk to her parent. I have a girl friend who told her mother this: "look mom, I love you more than anyone in my life, but I cannot do this no longer. If you do not stop drinking I'll have to leave you". Her mother did stop drinking because she was afraid to lose her only daughter, and the woman has not touched a drink in six years now.
If all this won't help, then you might have to talk to your friend to get help from the outside. Abuse is a dangerous thing, and especially when the abuser is under the influence and not really knows what he/she is doing. It would be better if your friend could get outside help right away, but considering that your friend does not want people to know I would say, try this approach first, but do not wait too long--if the abuse continues something needs to be done fast....
2007-02-05 20:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by rvrmldnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholic families are very secretive. Your friend doesn't want anyone to know about the "secrets" going on, that would go against all she has learned at home. The family members begin to isolate themselves from others so they can keep the secret. This is bigger than you to handle. You need to talk to your parents, explain to them your concerns. How is she being abused? Are they hitting her, yelling at her, what? That too is important to tell. Don't let her feel that she is alone. Let her know that you will always be her friend no matter what.
2007-02-05 19:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having alcoholic parents is something that a child grows up with in a cloud of shame. So it is going to be very difficult for her to come forward. She carries the wait of the family on her shoulders. She needs help and counseling. Try to get her to go to counseling to help her cope with this. Tell her that you would go with her if she needs your support. Adult children of Alcoholics might be able to help. I'm not sure how old she is but the other thing is, see if a friend's parents could take her in to live with them to get her out of that abusive environment. A counselor may be able to help her but she has to be able to come forward. You need to tell her that she has nothing to be ashamed about, it's not her fault. She is probably confused and not feeling very confident in herself because all her mental energy is going toward her parents and trying to please them somehow and not on herself where it should be.
2007-02-05 19:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend would get the police involved if they were sure of their friend's abuse. Regardless of what the victim says. Professionals can then investigate the claims.
2007-02-05 19:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Chi Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't get help for herself, as her friend you need to do it for her. You tell your parents, teacher counselor, priest - anyone you can trust. All it takes is one time for her parents to go too far! I will pray for her. Good Luck!
2007-02-05 19:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a gun,,,show her how to use it safely,take a gun safety course,talk with the instructor about shot placement,select proper ammo ,use what the police use,less lawsuits that way,,then when these bad parents rape her or beat her senseless ,,she has a good choice,,
2007-02-05 20:11:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
simple tell the police
2007-02-05 19:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by sally sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the cops.
2007-02-05 19:51:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋