My husband is always calling me the B-word for anything he gets mad about. Is this normal?
2007-02-05 11:45:23 · 32 answers · asked by lori3331 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would be considered Verbal Abuse. If it has nothing to do with you and he's taking out his anger by calling you names than this is not normal. If you two are fighting and he calls you that, although still unacceptable, it is much more common. You should be able to judge whether or not he is out of control when saying these things to you. If it is hurting you than just talk to him about it. If he doesn't stop: leave him.
2007-02-05 11:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Love <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very disrespectful, hurtful, and YES....It's abusive and disfunctional. Even if he says he's sorry, he apparently has anger management and respect issues. It's okay to disagree, have arguments from time to time, but in marriage (a sacred partnership), NO ONE should demean or belittle the other. It's really not how you show a person you love them. If there are things you are doing as well, and you think the marriage is worth saving, you can attempt counseling together, or get out of that relationship altogether. Give him an ultimatum to stop and/or leave him until he shows you he has given up on verbally abusing you forever.
2007-02-05 12:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not okay. You should try to talk to him about that. That is not a normal thing. You shouldn't have to put up with that. marriage is something special. When he took the vow he obviously didn't read the fine print. Don't let him treat you like that. You should take a step back and evaluate him. Is he over controlling? Are you really happy? I'm all about second chances but that is just ridiculous.
2007-02-05 11:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jacob M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal and yes it is a form of abuse. It is actually a form of verbal abuse. That is not a healthy relationship. And it is a cause for concern. Consueling may be helpful in your situation, but please do seek some form of help for your relationship. Name calling in a relationship is never a good thing.
2007-02-05 12:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, people have different ways of expressing anger. I know it's difficult when someone you love so much treats you like that. I'd say it's important to talk it out with him. Get him when he's in a good mood, tell him that you need to discuss something adn explain to him that his behavior is bothering you and that you find it disrespectful for him to speak to you that way. Ask him nicely to stop and if the problem persists and is really irritating, you could seek some form of counseling for him to go to (but you may want to go too! Support is important!!!) Best of luck to you!
2007-02-05 11:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. This behavior isn't normal. It's starts with verbal abuse and it could turn into something much worse. You don't deserve to be disrespected by him or anyone else for that matter. The longer you allow him to verbally abuse you he is going to continue. You deserve more than that.
2007-02-05 12:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by Seanette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no it isnt normal???? And yes its abuse....its called verbal abuse. Go online and check it out. If you can relate to the sites you find then get some help. You dont deserve that and hes an @$$ for doing it.
Good luck girl.
2007-02-05 11:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's being verbally abusive and if you ever have kids, they will grow up calling you the Bword as well. Is that what you would want for them? Tell him to knock it off and if he doesn't take a long walk to the nearest divorce lawyer and don't look back.
2007-02-05 11:52:50 · answer #8 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its verbal abuse...have you ever asked him why he calls you names. Usually your fighting style is a learned behavior. Communication skills are something we learned from our parents. Its not necessarily time to bail on the relationship. If you two can work on your relationship & find out the meaning behind it and as long as it doesn't get violent. I can see you working this out.
Every realtionship you will ever get into will not be perfect but you also don't have to put up with verbal abuse that can also scar you.
2007-02-05 11:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by MontichegoGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not normal. Sounds like verbal abuse. You should talk to him and let him know how you feel--he may think that it's done in a joking manner and doesn't offend you.
2007-02-05 11:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Moose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋