WHAT SHOULD I DO....? PLEASE HEPL!
I AM IN LOVE WITH THIS GUY, I MET HIM WHEN I WAS 18, AND WE HAVE BEEN SEEING EACHOTHER FOR TWO YEARS, I AM NOW 20, AND HE IS NOW 33, HE KNOWS ABOUT ME BEING A VIRGIN, AND WE HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING YET, BUT I WAN TO. I MET HIM WHEN HE WAS AROUND 31. SHOULD I DO ANYTHING WITH HIM OR NOT. I KNOW THAT THE AGE MAY BE MEESED UP BUT I DON'T WANT TO FOCUS ON THAT....! HE SAYS HE'S READY WHEN I AM, AND HAS NEVER PUSHED ME OR ASKED ME TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM, HE HAS ONLY BEEN WITH 4 PEOPLE, AND HE HAS NO KIDS, AND WANTS THEM LIKE I DO.WHAT SHOULD I DO? PLEASE HELP...!
2007-02-05 11:37:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, it's better to wait until you are married. Ummmmmml.................. Who am I kidding though. I didn't wait. I wish I did though. If you love him and he loves you. But the decision is totally up to you. It is YOUR virginity. Something you will never get back. And as for the age.... It doesn't matter. I always dated older guys. Make sure you use protection and still get tested. But it is a big decision and not one to take lightly. I hoped this helped and didn't make you even more nervous or confused. Good Luck!!!!!!!! (and have fun)
2007-02-05 11:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Krystle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him as much as he loves you without having a sex, then get married. The fact of having a sex before get the married even a day or night before changes everything on the relationship itself. Unlike get married first before sex. The relationship can be tricky if you don't have the prior ties in the right order, questioning yourself if its just an imitate partner or wholesome partner. Does sex seems an important way to get know that person to you? It is up to you, really. I don't think people shall make the decisions for you.. I cannot tell you what to think.. You are old enough to make the decisions. Just remember, Sex can be risky if you use that to your good judgments.
2007-02-05 12:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Julie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married first. If both of you are truly in love and it is not just that you want a taste of sex . Then marriage is what you want. After marriage that experience of sex will be so wonderful , and the love you two have will bring on more sexual experience with each other and children. Age has nothing to do with this.
The fact he is willing to wait tells me he loves you the proper way, don't dirty the love you have by having sex before marriage
2007-02-05 11:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask what to do, then you already know the answer. Don't take that step until you are absolutely, positively certain that you are ready. You don't necessarily have to wait until you are married unless that is your personal belief. But, you should wait until it is right.
He seems like a decent man for offering to wait until you are ready. So take advantage of that. You can only lose your virginity once. Make it count.
2007-02-05 11:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl! Don't have sex with him. If you have waited this long and haven't had sex,,, DONT. He only had sex with 4 women and 33 what kind of man is he. Has he been in prison off in on. That could explain the reason why he only had sex with four people. Don't have kids with him. Just wait you got your whole life ahead of you. You guys can still talk.
2007-02-05 11:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by finesexyandcool26 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I think it's wonderful that you are still a virgin, second, that is the most special thing you can give to someone so make sure your absolutly ready but you've waited this long, so why not make it really special and wait till your married.
2007-02-05 11:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 05:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried. Is there something about him that makes you cautious. I mean, do you believe this guy?
Trust your gut feeling. That means, when you ask yourself, "should I do this or that?" and your gut hurts, then the answer is no. If you ask yourself the question and your chest feels light, then the answer is yes.
No one knows what is right for you, more than you do.
2007-02-05 11:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a lot of varibles with this question. does it feel right. does he want to be with u forever? are u guys financially secure? do u feel ready for everything that comes with it? do u guys live together? think u can? its a beautiful thing when it happens with the right person. please use protection until u r sure. good luck
2007-02-05 11:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by rockinsuzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're ready, go for it! sounds like you've found the right guy, whatever the age, he obviously respects and cares about you. Congratulations, love beats all barriers, and the older you get, the less the age difference will matter...
2007-02-05 11:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋