He is telling the truth and is concerned, however, he is not attracted to her. Neither is cheating....But how common is this??? There have been minor attempts on her end but got cold quick.
If you were in this relationship, what would you be thinking? (this is kinda obvious)
2007-02-05 11:34:34 · 20 answers · asked by MrsJR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd be thinking the communication has severely broken down. You say he is not attracted to her... has it always been this way or is this a new thing? Why is he not attracted to her? If it hasn't always been this way, then he needs to start communicating and get both of them into couples counselling so they can work it out. If it has always been this way, then I guess he's just comfortable with it. (??) I don't think this is common... at least I sure hope not. In the 13 years my husband and I have been together, there's never been a lull more than a few days..
If I were in the relationship, I'd be thinking it's time to get counselling and start talking about the real issues that are underneath the lull in sex.
2007-02-05 12:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a lot more than raising kids, owning a home and keeping a job. A marriage is or should be between a man and a woman. They both have needs that require compassion, trust, respect and devotion. Then the have the need for sexual fulfillment of each other. Some women never feel orgasm and complain about it, or don't realize that sex does go to a higher level, Men also feel a higher sexual orgasm , not from anything like clitoral stimulation but from the audio response of a woman coming to an orgasm, He needs to work on getting her to an orgasm , she needs to show him how to get there or they can live Thu their lives with out a completely happy sex life, or just divorce and be with someone that make your sex life important!
2007-02-05 19:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is going to have to decide if he is happy or not. She may not want to she may be having some issues and needs time. It is common for relationships to dry up because people get married with false understandings that they are really in love. She may not be pleased by him. He should talk to his wife and see what the issue is. If he finds out she is just not happy and neither is he then he should get divorced and find someone who does make him happy and in return he ill make her happy.
2007-02-05 19:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to why he's telling his female friend this. Sometimes men say this to gain sympathy of their female friend in order to get her in bed with him. I'm not trying to be crass, but this is a common ploy. They target your empathetic side. But, if what he says is true and he's not trying to cheat, it can be common. They have issues that they have to deal with. That is one thing I didn't have a problem with when I was married. It was everything else we had a problem with. I think people tend to get comfortable and complacent sometimes and don't realize how it impacts their partner or they don't care.
2007-02-05 19:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got propositioned! A man is not going to go a year without sex and I think he's lying ( there are just too many women out there that will go to bed with him for free). This is a common line and there are still too many woman who continue to fall for it. Keep your distance from this guy.
2007-02-05 20:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some serious issues in this relationship. BOTH of them need to get to some counseling immediately, and stop acting like a couple of kids with temper tantrums.
2007-02-05 19:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by patrick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that they see a therapist. If there is no medical problems then there is no reason that they should not be having intercourse. They need to talk about this matter and try to resolve it before they end up ruining their marriage. Usually, this means that they have a lack of communication. DDS
2007-02-05 19:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Just Wondering 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both of us were ok with the situation, I wouldn't be thinking much of it. My husband kinda forgets to have sex, I sometimes remind him if we haven't "done it" over a month, but if I didn't I don't know if he'd even think of it. It's ok with me, we spend a lot of time together and do stuff together, sex is just not a big deal for either one of us.
2007-02-05 19:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he/she isn't attracted to the other. Some people are in the same situation for years. My parents have been married for 40 years and haven't slept together in 10! Go figure!
2007-02-05 19:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kim J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a "change of life thing" guys and gals go thru. It does become a secondary issue and even tertiary. They are finding they have nothing in common.
2007-02-05 19:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by ButwhatdoIno? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋