I'm in a relationship of 8 years. Not married to this woman but everything except my vehicles has been put in her name. House, her vehicles. Only thing in my name is my 2 pickups and motorhome.
We have separate bank accounts but make payments from each of our account on the home we built new. 5 years ago.
Recently i saw that her life insurance policies have her kids as beneficiaries to and including the will. I'm not listed in the will to get a damned thing. Basically the will states the house will be put up for sale and sold and proceeds less the mortgage balance will be given to the adult children currently ages 26 and 34.
Should i demand that she change the will to where i will retain the home if she dies.
As it stands right now if she died tomorrow, these kids would have me living on the streets and sell everything out from under me.
2007-02-05 11:28:54 · 8 answers · asked by michael_trussell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are several issues here that need to be addressed. First, you should definately be concerned that your mate of 8 years has chosen to exclude you from her will in regards to properties that you pay for jointly. Of course there is nothing wrong listing her children as beneficiaries, but she can also include you as well. The fact that she didn't may be indicator that this relationship might not be in your best interest. Before even discussing legalities, I think you should talk to your mate frankly discuss each of your wills and insurance policies in detail. You have every right to be willed the home and any other property tow which the two of you are making payments together. The rest of her property and finances can be left to her children if she pleases since the two of you aren't married. I suggest you sit down and talk with her in detail about the properties you are paying jointly. Let her know that you feel its only fair that you be left these things since you have contributed to them financially. If she chooses not to revise her will then I would cease making payments on these items immediately and consult a lawyer to see what your next steps should be in terms of things that you are financially contributing toward.
2007-02-05 11:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you help make the mortage payment I think it is only right you ask to be include in the will for that. I understand that your not married but being together for the last 5 years in the house you built together is half yours.
Hopefully this doesn't cause alot of grief in your family.
2007-02-05 19:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by MontichegoGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not her husband and can't force her to do a dang thing. I would kindly address her to the fact you saw her will and were concerned about it but other then that you don't have any rights. This is the problem when people live together like they're married but never make it legal, You don't have any say in the legal documents.
2007-02-05 19:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few questions - did you move into a house she already owned - did the two of you " buy" it together - If you moved in to her house, any money you are contributing pays for your room and board. If the house is hers, she has the right to do what she wants with it. Why would she not want to provide for her children. Why should she make provisions for you.
2007-02-05 19:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by ra63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you should talk to a lawyer about this - it doesn't seem very fair. There should be a way where you at least get the money paid into the house back if she died. I think you do need to seek legal advice on this one.
2007-02-05 19:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are out of line bringing it up to her at all. A good compromise would be that you get the house, but would have to come up with half the equity for her estate.
2007-02-05 19:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Joshua L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a James Brown mess and you know what happened there. Why don't you just marry her?
2007-02-05 19:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would certainly bring this up with her.
2007-02-05 19:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋