My friend and her husband married after a few months of knowing each other. They are celebrating their 2nd anniversary and up until 3 months ago they had a bad marriage and planned to divorce. For the past 2 months they have been rebuilding their marriage and say things are much better.
My friend got pregnant and it wasn't planned. She said she isn't sure that they will be married forever, but it taking it one day at a time.
Can a rocky marriage become stronger from a baby? Is her marriage doomer? Do you have any happy stories for my friend?
2007-02-05 11:15:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This isn't about me. I have been with my husband 5 happy years, thanks. :)
2007-02-05 11:21:24 · update #1
No, if anything a baby can bring greater stress to a marriage. Even if it smooths out for a bit, the underlying issues are still there.
2007-02-05 11:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had a rock solid marriage before the unplanned pregnancy I'm 29 he's 34 we were not wanting this he even got a vasectomy while i was still pregnant. I have a 11 and 9 year old that don't live with us. He did not want any kids. Our baby is now 2 months old the baby has put a strain on us. Before we traveled a lot cuddled a lot all our free time was with each other we could not have been happier. We get no sleep now we get no free time we can't travel the baby has put the FIRE out for us so i would think if things were already bad a baby would make them fall apart FOR SURE.
2007-02-05 19:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, no way. The baby brings happiness, for sure - but it also brings A LOT of stress into the marriage, and requires heaps more commmittment. If the marriage is already on the rocks, it is likely that the baby will disrupt the delicate balance even more. They are headed for divorce it looks like.
2007-02-05 19:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all.. Having a baby will not make it any better if anything it will make it worse over time. They need marriage counseling and help first and to work on their marriage before even wanting to bring a baby into the middle of it.
2007-02-05 19:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though a baby is a joyous occassion, it will not make a rocky marriage stronger or last any longer. She'd be better to work on seeing if the marraige can be saved, before she brings a child into this world.
2007-02-05 19:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Think about the stress you have now and multiply it > 10 times. Get a couselor or do a marriage study together. Tehre are some great marriage retreats.
PS: If you're preganant already, work on the marriage ASAP.
2007-02-05 19:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation about five years ago, and it tanked. We ended up splitting. If the two parties wish to have a good marriage, they will work at it, a baby will not make everything better.
2007-02-05 19:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by lobo5747 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby will
A. Further negative feelings between the couple causing them to take faster action to divorce.
or
B. It will bring the couple together, giving them a deeper relationship. Having a baby will make them put aside their differences and unite for the greater good (raising the child).
2007-02-05 19:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by beatlesfanatic123456 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are working on the marriage then it may be ok --- usually having a baby does not make it better it just puts everything underground ---- if they keep working at it and falling in love then yes it will work --- always leave time for themselves even with the baby ---- best wishes to them
2007-02-05 19:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends a lot of times having a baby dos'nt help a rockie marriage. if they are trying and want to make a go of it maybe they should see a counciler.
2007-02-05 19:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋