She has asked me before, and I have kind of skirted the question. Now, because of some things that have happened in both our lives, I think its time I actually talk to her about it, but at the same time, I don't want to upset her or make her feel guilty for my problems, 'cause they're not her fault.
2007-02-05 11:06:06 · 17 answers · asked by wonderer152 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her actual attempt was a couple years ago, she's almost completely reconstructed her life since then. I'm not worried about her trying to kill herself again right now. Like I said, she's asked me about it before, and I kind of do want to talk to her, or at least I feel like she has a right to know what was going on in my mind through the entire thing, but at the same time I don't want to upset her or make her feel guilty.
2007-02-05 11:18:05 · update #1
Tell her, both of you go together by thick and thin, no matter how often things to be constructed in both of your lives. Without make any judgments at all. You tell your friend you did not realize how much she meant to you after saw her in the same picture of you with her. Tell her losing her is like a million dollars to you and wants to have her join you for second chance to go on to change what it been to you and her and change things together, not just by one by one, just two of you together, because both of you went through same thing together at different times. Opening up relieves stress, defuses your fears, and is the first step to freedom of guilt issues the between you and your friend.
2007-02-05 11:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Julie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and talk to her. Here's a great outline:
1. Affirm the relationship - Let her know you love her just the way she is.
2. Discuss the issue - Her attempts on suicide are effecting you. Tell her how they make you feel.
3. Discuss solutions - Let her know you are there whenever she needs you 24/7. You won't judge her. It on't change your opinion of her no matter what she tells you.
4. Reconfirm the relationship - Give her a hug and let her know you are now sisters.
What a great friend you are. The problem with having male friends is they are not affectionate that way and having an affectionate woman friend is inappropriate because I'm married.
2007-02-05 11:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe these folks can help:
Suicide & Crisis Hotline 1-800-999-9999 Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention
2007-02-06 17:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem a year ago. My friend was doing drugs and attempted to commit suicide. It practically destroyed our relationship. I would take it slow, and explain to them that its not their fault and that youre going through a rough time in your life. I wish i could of done something like that when I had the chance.
2007-02-05 11:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is loving and compassionate, and we are taught that he forgives our sins if we repent. And is it even a hundred% specific that suicide IS a sin? it relatively is by no potential explicitly reported as one in the Bible So on your seek for God have you ever been attending church? Do you have a non secular community? A pastor? in case you're doing all this searching for on your very own, i propose you to start searching for a faith community as nicely. I additionally propose pastoral counseling--no longer in basic terms out of your clergyperson, who might no longer be knowledgeable in extra suitable than the rudiments, yet from an approved pastoral counselor, who's an relatively psychological wellbeing provider and might additionally be lined via your scientific coverage in case you have any. in case you haven't any longer have been given coverage, ask around till you hit upon a unfastened source. . And do you have a kin wellbeing practitioner? if so, make an appointment and tell her or him how depressed you're. finally, shop praying to God--no longer in basic terms for forgiveness, which i'm specific he has already given you, yet for healing and the potential to forgive the persons who abused you and show you how to down.
2016-10-01 11:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is may be going through some kind of therapy as a result of her attempted suicide and part of the healing is to learn the devastation caused to people and loved ones when one does this selfish act. That is my guess...don't be afraid to say how you feel about it. As you said, you have your own problems...but had she succeeded it would have added to your misery considerably and permanently.
2007-02-05 11:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how she made you feel, she may be asking you because she wants to feel that it did upset you. Not in a mean kind of way, but in a off the wall mental state kind of way. She may NEED to feel needed, wanted and loved.
2007-02-05 11:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if her actions affected you then it is kinda her fault! you need to be gentle and try to talk on a good day and make sure that you get your true feelings across or what is the use of the talk??
2007-02-05 11:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by C.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell her how you feel about it. Dont sit there and blame everything on her just tell her what you want to. Dont sit there and sugar coat it all but then again dont sit there and make her feel down to where she may try to commit suicide again. Just tell her what is on your mind.
2007-02-05 11:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be as honest as you can while still being gentle. This is not the time for brutal honesty. Good luck.
2007-02-05 11:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Tina K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋