needy and desperate for love and companionship, which iam? needy to just have someone in my life...ive known her a while, weve seen each other on cam, she seems to like me and ive feel ive established some sort of relashionship with her..she even wants to move to uk to be with me. however she doesnt no the reality of my situation, how lonely iam, how desperate and needy iam. and clingy.& the extreme lack of self worth i feel.& im scared of going online to talk to her incase all these traits & feelings show themselves. i fear she would reject me. if she really new how lonely & desperate,& needy i really was..if she new i lived alone and battled psychiatric problems..she doesnt no all this severity bout me.& ive been to scared to admit it to her...when im in these very low acute moods, with racing morbid thoughts, i cant seem to make contact with anyone, or communicate very well..without all these problems and insecurities surfacing.. i love her & dont want to lose her what should i do?
2007-02-05 10:56:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
go out and meet people who live closer to you,and if she shows up,fine..if not..not great loss,I don't understand what the problem is .
I don't think you will have to worry about her coming to see you,she pick up on your insecurities and needieness and dump you before she risk coming out to see you,unless you change your attitude.Sounds to me like that is not going to happen unless something drastically changes your personality.
I think you need to chill out man. jeez
2007-02-05 11:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with purplegurl. But if you think it's worth a shot, you could eventually find some excuse to go to Canada, then tell her "I'll be in your province in two weeks for [reason], should we maybe meet up for coffee or dinner or something?" If she looks excited to see you, then you know she at least likes you enough to want to meet you. That DOESN'T mean you're meant for each other, just means you're good friends.
The reason I say you should go to her country is because it is a more disarming situation that gives her nothing to be afraid of. Also, if she wants to meet you, let her pick the meeting place. That way no one can accuse you of being a psycho stalker.
2007-02-05 11:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by crabskulls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure u love her and not the feeling u get talking to her. maybe u should go out with friends more often and meet lots of people then u may relize u do not love her for anymore then a close friend.
2007-02-05 11:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by purplegurl1995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be urself without showing depreteness. its ok if they show though. if she really likes she will like u 4 u. just dont lie to her, its bad when ppl lie to get some1 to like them more. just b urself and if she really does like u she wont care if u r clingy or fellu lack self worth. if she really likes u she will c through that and c u 4 who u r, who she likes. u can say ur in a low mood, she may cheer u up and make ufeel better. dont feel insecure. she is there 4 u, and u r there 4 her. just b urself.
2007-02-05 11:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kacie S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see what the big deal is. You are insercure so what everyone is insercure. Its not like your a murderer you just are shy haha. Stop making a big deal out of nothing your just trying to feed your insercurity by making big deals out of stupid ****. Talk to her like you do normally. And live your life and enjoy it because one day you wont be here.
2007-02-05 11:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Beaverscanttalk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can you love someone you can't be honest with? You don't even know us and we know more about you in two questions that she has learnt in 18mnths of e-mails. Time to be honest, she may be in love with an idea of who you are....not you, then you'll both be dissapointed.
2007-02-05 11:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋