I'm not talking eating out. I just happened to be around a grocery store and picked up some food for lunch that week. $20. my dad refuses to pay me back. I want opinions on this. I dont even have a job currently...I'm still in high school...
2007-02-05 10:49:37 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
he refuses to pay and i refuse to speak to him. all we do is fight when he tries to talk to me. i am in a living hell. i want to run away.
2007-02-05 10:53:05 · update #1
it was my own goddamn birthday money.
2007-02-05 10:53:38 · update #2
+ i've been buying my own clothes for almost a year now. everything. i bought LUNCH MEAT, BREAD, APPLE JUICE, YOGURT.
2007-02-05 10:55:49 · update #3
+ i've been buying my own clothes for almost a year now. everything. i bought LUNCH MEAT, BREAD, APPLE JUICE, YOGURT etc.
2007-02-05 10:56:01 · update #4
i live with just my dad. he makes about 100,000 a year. i've been paying for everything a buy except for food for a very long time now. i just quit my job because i wasnt happy with it and made my hate myself/be depressed. (accounting.) I'm currently in the middle of being hired (hopefully!) in retail.
it was food he would normally buy if i went with him and picked things out.
2007-02-05 10:59:27 · update #5
My personal opinion is that you are under age, under his roof...his rules etc...and he is still responsible for you. Responsible to feed you and clothe you (within reason of course), so keeping you fed is his job.
Even so, you are 17 and if you choose to purchase things that weren't on the list...there's nothing wrong with that. He isn't mandated to repay you. He's obligated to keep you fed, but he's not obligated to buy special items because you want yogurt and chicken wings, and he planned to buy stuff for ham sandwiches. I would have a problem with this if you went to the store TOGETHER, and he separated your things from the rest and made you pay for them. As this is though...you went to the store yourself...made these purchases on your own...and paid for them on your own. He had no say in it.
Next time, if you want him to pay for this...you should just ask him "Dad, next time you go to the store...could you pick up some ...?"
2007-02-05 11:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, if you don't have a job, where did the $20 come from? Your dad?
At 17, you can start showing that you understand that you are responsible for your choices. If your dad had asked you to go shopping, it would be one story. But, it seems like you chose to buy the food, so you should enjoy it, and be thankful that you have a nice dad, a family, and the ability to have a meal. Seriously--it's a lot more than others have. Being part of a family means contributing--your dad is letting you know it's time you start to contribute, even though you're still in high school (you're not a baby).
2007-02-05 10:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by emmesokol57 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Food stamps are for those that don't have enough income or resources to afford proper food. I don't believe there's a requirement that you be disabled, have children, etc. Although you're employed, you may have to sign an agreement that you'll look for additional work. It won't hurt to apply. You just may qualify for some food stamps. When you go into the office with your completed application, be sure to have the following with you: Rent receipts, electric bill, phone bill, medical bills. If you have renter's insurance, bring proof of that, too. Generally, case workers will figure your housing expenses first. If your housing expenses exceed 1/2 of the "income that they count", you will qualify for some assistance. There is a complicated formula that they use to calculate eligibility and amount of benefits. You surely will not receive any food stamps if you don't apply. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose but a few hours in a govt. office. Good luck. Edit: Don't forget to bring proof of income, such as check stubs, or a statement from your employer. And bring a recent bank statement for your checking account, or any savings account you have. They will want to know about your "resources" (cash and other assets) as well. If you have substantial funds in any bank, they wanna know about it. And do not lie on the application, as they will find out and automatically disqualify you.
2016-03-29 06:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he should pay you back, if you decided on your own to get some stuff for your lunch then your dad shouldn't have to pay you back, he probably had stuff in the house, and you just wanted something different. Maybe you should go get a job, your old enough. Then you will have money, and plus Im sure your dad gives you money all the time, so think of this as your thank you.
2007-02-05 10:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there's a lot more around this question.
We have a 12 year old in our house. She is not required to pay for food or rent - of course. But she is RESPONSIBLE for helping out around the house. Most of the time - we tell her that HER job is to get good grades. And she does that. She's also required to keep her room clean, clear her dishes from the table, help prepare dinner now and then, and help us with various chores without complaining.
If you are helping out - and getting good grades - and being a pleasant, helpful soul in your house. (that's a big IF) - then I see no reason for you to be paying for groceries at 17.
2007-02-05 11:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally parents are obligated to support thier children until the age of 18, but what court are you going to go to do? It's not like you can sue him in grocery court for the money back. Unless you're the type of kid to sneak the 20 out of his wallet when he's not looking, then you really can't do anything. Pick your battles wisely.
2007-02-05 10:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by boinga28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who gave you the money? Did you eat from this food too? I know you feel bad about the $20, but your dad probably spends alot more on that for you. Don't be angry at him and keep on going to school. You are still a minor.
2007-02-05 10:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't have a job or anything, its your parents complete responsibility to support you and take care of those kind of things... especially since you're still a minor.
of course, if you were just buying food in excess than it's different.. because it's not like you needed it. but if that isn't the case, then yeah he should pay you back.
and don't bother running away... you're almost 18 and you'll be able to start your own life soon enough.
2007-02-05 10:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by tanj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I can say is don't let $20 ruin your relationship with your dad. You are getting old enough to buy your own stuff. You can't run away if you have no money, so you are better off staying where you are.
2007-02-06 00:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much you help around the house?
Do you recieve an allowance?
Was the 20 bucks spent for junk food you like and only you eat? or for the family?
Depending on the situation I could "vote" either way
2007-02-05 10:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dave S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋