will no one in the us or canada throw me a life line?

Question

im battling psychiatric probs and live in a small flat in the uk, im very lonely, isolated, i have no friends. i only have my mum and dad for support. im 29 and have missed out on life so much, missed out on relashionships, somebody nice, a nice girl. social development, employment, study. i desperatly want to achieve my goals in life & am scared of time running out on me. i would love to emmegrate to the us or canada, & live in a nice home, with a nice girlfriend. but i cant see how im gonna achieve this. it seems to difficult from where iam now. on benefits, living in a small flat in the uk, battling dibilitating psychiatric problems..very low self esteem, low moods everyday, bleak morbid thoughts, racing thoughts, im wondering if anyone from canada or the us throw me a life line & coach me, work with me to help me achieve my goals. my dreams. im willing to do things your way. im willing to work with you. but i need someone to help me work out a plan. how i can emmegrate.step by step

Answer 1

If I was living in Canada...I'd adopt you...even though I'm younger than you

BUT I'm not so sorry I can't help

Answer 2

Look people, you're living in Canada, trust our justice system for crying out loud, not the Americans. All of you who says kill this kid, well, for one, go the the states cause here in Canada, we don't think the death penalty is moral and should be incorporated. Secondly, this kid IS and WAS a kid when he was caught. Being stuck in a prison for 5 years, isolated and tortured is not exactly learning so for all we know, he's still 16/17 years old in the head. I don't think that if you knew this kid, you would be bashing him like this. All of us Canadians live in a multicultural society, so stop this freaking bigotry. When was the last time it got you anywhere. Humans are humans, I see just as much crimes from every other culture in the world so stop pinpointing those from the middle east just because you want to blame someone. No one is better then another person so all this will lead to nowhere. Instead, you should focus on why our PM is acting like a puppy, rolling around like a puppy for George Bush. We get it, Canada is not a powerhouse, we need the US to survive, but does that mean that we have no choice in any matter, just like Khadr had no choice to not follow his family back to Afghanistan after 9/11.

Answer 3

I'm really sorry to hear you have those problems, but I don't believe emigration is the answer, at least not at this point until you get better where you are, because you really need whatever social support network you have around you right now. Believe me, life is not easier in Canada. To move anywhere in Canada or the States would be a culture shock for you, and truthfully I don't know so much about the States but it's a lot harder to even get in to Canada now then it was ten or twenty years ago, and if you did somehow, you would not get support from the government. I just don't want you to think that's your only hope and get disappointed. Have you tried joining a support group? Having people with similar problems to talk to can help you feel a lot less isolated. Since North America is so important to you, perhaps it will help motivate you to improve your condition if you make it your goal to find a way to come here at least for a visit.

Answer 4

This is a random assortment of things to help you....read them all and ask questions about all of them....im a pretty deep person with an understanding of psychology and personal mental problems. Dont do drugs, get an amino acid supplement (this restores a ton of neurotransmitters that are necessary for good cognitive function and depression and anxiety screw up the amount of these chemicals), meditate, (quick way to meditate is breathe in and out deeply and listen to your breathing, and then start picturing you self where you want to be and how nothing is impossible) sing to a song. You are not running out of time either, dont think that. Go on a diet of good food and excercise also. Maintain a strict schedule if possible. Do something you are good at that makes you happy. Another thing you can do with yourself is realize all of this is not your fault, its your dna and your life experiences that made this happen so far, but sooner or later you'll gain control. do you have a job or something? Because you need money. And the relationship problems are just because your emotions are so intense that its hard to confront them so you supress them. People enjoy experiencing your emotion when you talk. But you supress it so you might feel you are different from everybody. especially when you talk to people because you might intellectualize your emotions and not respond in a positive emotional manner..People might not understand the complexity of you and simply say youre weird or crazy. they are wrong - you wouldnt hurt a fly. And other questions or anything i can help you with email me [e-mail]

Answer 5

Doesn't matter where you are or where you go, You will always turn up at the same place "yourself".

I think if you do something to help others and let "self" get away for a little while everything will fall into place.

No man is an island, it's ok to get away from it all and others for a rest, but you belong with others and helping others. After this is acheived you will notice how much you have helped yourself by helping others.

ask around, fufill someones need, maybe a charity or just being helpful to someone. Life and perspective will change for you, and the ones you have helped.

Answer 6

Hi Hung up Derek, I know that you probably aren't interested in this answer, because you've already decided that emigration is what you need. However, you need to step back one step and see a physician. Tell him or her basically what is going on with you and go from there. Never rely on medical or psychiatric advice that you get from Yahoo Answers; your life is too important to take a chance. Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

and where will you run to next? How will moving abroad help you overcome your problems, you will just be taking them with you. You say you only have your parents for support...at least you have them. Who will you have in the states? No-one is going to love a stranger that much. Don't believe their's is a better life style. That's what they portray on tv, they have hardship and problems just like anywhere else. You need to find a way of overcoming and accepting who you are before you can discover what you want. Life is just beginning...join in

Answer 8

Your first step is to improve your general standard of education and gain experience or qualification that will guarantee you employment in Canada. Most importantly is to recognise that no-one owes you a living it is down to you. A little work on your spelling and grammar would not go amiss.

Answer 9

ummmm the pity thing doesn't really work in the states. maybe try something like "is anyone a big enought sucker to let me come there and live off them for a while?" (but perhaps give them a reason. like use whatever skill(s) you have, like...i dunno....you're good with cars and you'll fix theirs whenever it breaks down or something)

Answer 10

um...well once u immigrate....u get sum phychiatric help cuz theyre really good in canada then ull need to find a job, then the rest will *** naturally. trust me. being not urself will be natural once u get to Canada it will almost be immpossible to be depressed. trust me.