Should I cheat on my boyfriend?
He has cheated on me before and it completely broke my heart, and our relationship has not been the same. But here we are still after a year keeping our relationship strong. I love him very much, and we are in love, but part of me wants to explore what else the world has to offer me including men. I do not dare though, because it is my boyfriend who I want to come home to everyday. It is he I want to fall asleep with everynight and wake up to in the morning. I do not believe the grasser is greener on the other side, but now there is a guy who is much older then me, married with two children who has caught my attention. He is a very cool person and a lot of people love him for his unique personality. I on the other hand find myself sexually aroused by him. He has told me that he has fantasized bout being with me, and I told him I did the same with him. Now I am aching for him in that sexual way.
2007-02-05 10:13:47 · 13 answers · asked by dee m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
But I do not want to leave my man for just a one night stand. That is all it would be a one night stand! I am usually SOOO against cheaters, and homewreckers…but here I am in their shoes. I have to be honest I like the feeling of being selfish and naughty. There is a possibility I can turn this fantasy into reality, but I do not want to cheat, nor do I want to leave my boyfriend of three years. But I cant stop thinking about this guy and craving him to have all to myself. WHAT DO I DO?
2007-02-05 10:14:05 · update #1
Trust is one of the most important things in having a relationship to me. The others are respect and similar values. I do not believe in the saying "opposites attract". Anyway, being that trust is most important to me, if anyone breaks that trust, I'll never forget it and wouldn't be able to let it go (no matter how much people like him). I don't believe in cheating. I am monogamous, but because of trust, I am able to be friends with other men. I would end the relationship with him as hard as that may be, because every woman deserves to be number one with her partner and shouldn't have to have doubts when he's not with her. Second, STAY OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH MARRIED MEN!!!!!!! I learned the hard way and had a breakdown because I got involved with a few married men. You are the one who gets hurt and it's also a reflection of what you feel about yourself. It's better to be alone, believe me, than have to share someone and know you really can't count on him. My fiance passed away almost three years ago. I've been alone since. But I knew, when we were together, that he'd Never cheat on me and that's what I demand in a relationship. Adopt a cat. I did and he saved my life when Dean passed away. Now, he's the most important thing to me. I hope I've helped!
2007-02-05 11:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Piper 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the feeling that you had when your boyfriend cheated on you. Didn't feel good, did it. You talk about that you don't want to know if the grass is greener on the other side, you are contradicting yourself. You can't have both. If you really want to to do this, you need to break up with your boyfriend and let him know that you have sexual feelings for someone else. I truly believe that if you let you go and it comes back then it was meant to be, if it doesn't then it was not meant to be. If you truly love your boyfriend, you wouldn't want to do this, fantasizing is okay but to want to go thru it is not okay! Love yourself!
2007-02-05 18:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by nurias5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. Break up with him for cheating on you......If you love your boyfriend like you say you do, and you are giving him a second chance, you shouldn't even think twice about whether to "cheat on him". And stay away from the married man! What are you thinking?? You're a very immature woman (girl), and have absolutely no morals. Grow up.
2007-02-05 18:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please..if you are going to cheat on your man...think about how your man made you feel when he cheated on you. Don't mess with a married man... think of what would happen if the wife found out.. what the kids would have to go through.
the grass could always be greener on the other side.
Don't stay with a man who cheats on you. Once a cheater always a cheater... he will only do it again.
2007-02-05 18:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by quixotic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY FOOLISH PEOPLE COMMIT ADULTERY. If you do end up sleeping with this MARRIED man, you will only end up hurting yourself in the end. You will also hurt your boyfriend (who you claim to love), his wife, his children. No fling is worth that. Cheating on your boyfriend because he cheated on you will not make you feel any better about yourself or your relationship. Seems to be like you should not even be in a relationship if you are thinking about cheating, and further more with a married man. As I said earlier, only Fools commit adultery - and hopefully you are no fool.
2007-02-05 18:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I dont wanna get all church on you but the bible says to love your enemies! I KNOOOOW that that is the hardest things we could eva do but maybe him cheating was for a good reason.idk. But whatever you do.... DONT CHEAT! DONT CHEAT! Thats just as worse as him cheating on you. Dont do it. It'll hurt you. It'll probably feel good at first, but after a while you feel like the guiltiest person on the planet. Dont do it. i know youre dying to though.
Wait... I didnt read the sexual part... now thats a hard one! woo! lol. Cuz you cant stop sexual feelings! Man this is a really hra question. Idk what to tell you. But i dont think that you should tell yo bf! Thatll probably piss him off.
2007-02-05 18:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by coconc93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't lower yourself to the level of that scumbag. And besides, do you want to be known as a home wrecker?
Just dump the loser and move on with your life. If you cheat with a married man, your no better than your boyfriend. Think about it.
2007-02-05 18:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope ...Don't become a cheater...
If you want someone else, break up first...
I have never cheated....
Beneath my character...
If I want someone else, I break off any current ongoing relationships
first.....even for a 1 night stand...
Don't even get started down that slippery slope...
2007-02-05 18:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right...If you really love him...( your boyfriend) you won't cheat..
plus the other man is married...you want to destry his realtionship with his kids plus his wife..if he gets caught...
How would you feel if your dad was banging another lady...just for a sexual night.....
2007-02-05 18:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. There's better men out there. When someone really loves you , they respect you and obviously he doesn't.
2007-02-05 18:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋