my boyfriend is a really special guy he is the most caring and supportive person but lately he has been obsessed with our future and he has planned everything around this big promotion that he is getting and he has worked out our finances to a tee and the news of a baby will completly stuff everything up and i know i need to tell him but im not sure how any help you can give would be great also if anyone has any tips on dealing with early pregnancy that would be most appriciated.
2007-02-05 10:03:41 · 13 answers · asked by paula w 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should tell him be true and honest to him that is the most important thing in a relationship. I am sure by the way you are describing him and saying how he plans your future together he is a great guy and won't over react from your news. He might even be excited. You never know give it a try. Good lucks..hoping for the best.
2007-02-05 10:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by o0szio0 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it takes two to make a pregnancy happen, so it's not like this is something you purposely did to ruin his plans. This is just something that happened, and you two will have to change your plans a little. No one can plan exactly when certain things are going to happen.
Wait until you and your boyfriend are together (hopefully in the next few days), then tell him. He's going to find out sooner or later, so you should let him know as soon as possible. This way you'll both be ready for a baby by the time it arrives. I'm sure he'll be very happy about the news, and will want to know as soon as possible.
You should definitely go to a doctor to get prenatal care. Hopefully your boyfriend will come with you to your appointments. He'll be able to ask questions and learn stuff, too. Make sure to stay healthy during your pregnancy (eat well, get some low-impact exercise, get enough sleep, don't drink alcohol or smoke, etc.). Have a positive attitude and don't worry if your boyfriend's financial plans change. No one can plan their finances exactly because things always happen (babies, promotions/demotions, moving, broken bones, broken car transmission, etc.). You have to take life as it comes, and a baby is a very important part of your life. Be happy!
2007-02-05 18:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he loves you then telling him straight out he should still love you. A baby is to be a thing of happiness. Who wouldn't want a boy to play catch with or a girl to .....um I don't know I didn't have any sisters. But my point is he should be happy. It will be a shock at first, but if he got a promotion then you should be good to go.
If people could plan their lives out from start to finish where would the fun in that be. There will always be surprises down the road. Both of you will have to figure out how to deal with these surprises, but the best thing is communication in a relationship. If you don't have that then the relationship won't last. I just say talk to him.
2007-02-07 17:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard- i've been through telling 2 men that we were going to be having a baby (obviously it wasn't planned either time)- the best thing to do- is find a time to sit and talk at home with him- don't do it when he's tired from work or had a bad day or grumpy- just sit down and let him know you need to talk about something- and just say it. You will stress yourself out for days and weeks preparing the perfect thing to say- but there isn't a perfect way. best to just sit down and let your feelings come out and see his reaction and talk things through. You'll probably be surprised by his reaction and you'll feel a ton of relief that he knows. Good luck- i know it's not easy- but it's not as hard as it seems either! It will all work out for the best!
2007-02-05 19:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice from experience just bring it out in the open as soon as possible the longer you wait the harder it is on both of you. take him to dinner and just come out with it thats the best way short and simple right to the point good luck and congrats
2007-02-05 19:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by squirrellchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Honey, you remember that special night we..... well guess what
we created? I am pregnant and you are the father. We need to talk." Can't get any easier than that. Then tell him he needs to do
some new financing.
2007-02-05 18:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Precious Gem 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just be like " yall honey im going to pop out a baby" say it a funny way?
2007-02-05 18:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well babe.... remember a while ago we got hot and wild and neither of us had any protection on, well, I think you know what I am about to tell you!
2007-02-05 18:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jersey Girl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey, lets get married.
2007-02-05 18:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i told mine that i thought i was and that i was going to take a test and he can look at the test and tell me what it said. lol
2007-02-05 18:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by vomit heart 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋