Why don't men generally show remorse if they cause a relationship to end?

Question

Just ready about Kylie and Olivier and he seems to have "moved on" already. My brother was the same when he split with my sister in law. She was (and still is) in bits. He is now happily living with his new partner.

Answer 1

ok your asking why a man wouldn't show remorse for ending a relationship? Are you serious? Obviously it had been over for him for a long time before he decided to end the relationship. Why would he be remorseful about it? Guys don't just up and one day decide to end relationships. It takes time, and reasons, and by the time a guy's mind is made up, all emotions are out the window and it is down to the cold-hard facts.

Answer 2

Both My own Daughter and My Daughter-in-law showed no remorse when they chucked their respective Husbands out to move their lovers into the family home and marital bed. It is the women of today that break up most families along with the stupid single men that fall for a woman with kids......I think it is because the men are too lazy to build a home of their own they just move into someones else terrority not giving a thought about the children who cry every night for the father that has been abandoned.....I can assure you there are many men who are in this situation and who have lost everything they have worked and worshipped and to top it all the unremorseful wife then wants paying for what she has done.....called maintenance I think. Bring back the old law when a man or woman breaks up a marriage make them pay not the innocent one.

Answer 3

Its that old stereotype thing but a lot of men like to show the macho, I am a survivor, no emotions, nothing gets to me , I am strong, I am bold attitude.

Women are often a little more needy, dependant on others and emotional.

Kinda the way we were made I suppose.

My partner rarely shows remorse for his actions, I know deep down he cares and thinks about stuff but he hates showing it as he reckons he doesn't like to show his weaknesses he likes to give off vibes that say I can cope with anything.

They do have weak spots though its just a case of finding them.

Answer 4

It depends. Usually the one who ends the relationship has already Moved on before the split. I have dumped guys and moved on a week later. I have also had my heart broken and been a mess for a year trying to get over it. Men hurt too. They may just hide it better.

Answer 5

I thought you meant that they cause the relationship to end by behaving so badly that you finish with them; in which case, they hate being told that they wrecked it.
On the other hand, if they are the ones that finish it and don't show remorse, why should they be remorseful for what is to them a positive action? They want to follow through with the decision, not get drawn into sympathising which might unsteady their conviction.

Answer 6

I wish I knew.. it seems so much easier for men to just forget and move on. When us women remember so much and love so much.

Although. On the other side some men are this way too. Ever see the movie "40 year old virgin," man its a funny movie. There is a guy in the movie who just can't get over his ex. I have some ex's that are still bitter with me for breaking off the relationships.. sigh maybe men in their own way, they hurt, its just hard for us women to see it.

One of my ex's whom I was with for 3 years.. we loved each other very much. Once I went to go see him a long time ago at his work to pay a visit.. He stopped working and came to see me immediately and took me aside so we could talk.. once he had a chance tears streamed down from his eyes. Now this guy never cried in our relationship..only after. His words to me where.. "I thought you hated me.. I thought I'd never see you again.. "

So like I said its a hard call to say..that they don't feel after.. One may suggest, that they quickly move into another relationship so that they can escape the pain, of the break up, in a way it seems like they forget us..but really they don't know how to handle the pain.

Answer 7

What comes around goes around. Sometimes when a man or a woman walks out on a good person and thinks the grass is greener on the other side they are blinded by that instant gratification of something new. Sooner or later "THE FACE"(the illusion of the perfect person) will come off and they will be wish that they never let the first person go. I've seen it too many times. Mark my word.

Answer 8

I think it's a sex and ego thing, as long as it's the man who leaves the woman for somebody else he's happy, but if the woman leaves the man then he acts like the immature big baby he probably is. Men don't seem to really care who they are with as long as they're getting good sex. My ex was more angry than anything when I left him, but as soon as he found somebody else, within a week or so he was all smiles again, anyway he was a ****.

Answer 9

I think it's a case of "men are from mars, women are from venus". I'm sure nobody sets out for this to happen, but men and womens brains are totally different. To the point of women feeling ALOT more emotion than men. Let's face it, us women are much more emotional in relationships than men, because we feel it more! We will never understand a man's brain, and they will never understand ours. That's what stops relationships being boring!! (most of them anyway, lol)

Also, some women are like this too, but for different reasons.

Answer 10

Maybe the woman caused the relationship to end due to her endless nagging, complaining, belittling, and disrespect. Maybe he never got any love, affection, respect, admiration or even sex from his wife and feels she didn't live up to her end of the marriage.
You never know what goes on behind closed doors, but these days, so many women are so freaking hostile when it comes to their husbands, and view marriage as some horrible oppressive state, it's no wonder the men just leave.