My friend just found out her mom has breast cancer last week. She will be having surgery soon. I have never experienced anything like this before and I want to do something to help. Has anyone gone through this and has ideas on what I can do to help support her through this?
2007-02-05 09:48:56 · 3 answers · asked by Lo 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Chris is right. My mom was just diagnosed and that sounds like what I need. Just offer a shoulder whenever she looks like she needs it, don't wait for her to ask. Be understanding if her moods suck, tough it out with her. When her mom goes thru surgery make sure everyone is taken care of. For example, meals, supplies, shopping, HOUSECLEANING and such. If your friend is helping her mom with her house and meals, help your friend with hers. If your friend can't help or needs a break from helping her mom and you know her, then you could offer. If they are anything like my family, they will say they don't need help. Try not to ask, just tell them you're coming over ask what time would be best. Mostly, just be there. You sound sweet being so concerned and wanting to help, but sometimes theres nothing in particular a friend can do except put up with us.
2007-02-05 11:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Shellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that your friend's mom is suffering. Your friend will need you more than ever right now.
Know that she will be going through a whirlwind of emotions. Be honest with her, and tell her that you just feel so helpless. Ask her what she needs. If her mom is having surgery soon, offer to cook some meals for her. Offer to help keep house, so that your friend can concentrate on her mom.
Tell her you'll put them on the prayer list at church (if you go), and that you'll be keeping them in prayer. You might even want to consider bringing your friend to church if she is willing.
When it is a good time, try to get your friend out and about, and do something special like go to eat, or to the movies, or to the mall.
Don't avoid her mom. She is still the same person she was before she knew about the cancer. If you have a relationship with her, keep it up. Tell her stories about your day, print out forwards from your email. She needs a sense of "the same". Don't be afraid to ask what they need. And know that you too will be in my prayers.
God Bless,
Chris
2007-02-05 18:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for her is just be there. Be a shoulder to cry on. Be a listener. Spend time with her. Have her over for dinner or a sleepover every once in a while. It will help her immensely to get out of the house once in a while. Don't be afraid to visit her house (sadly some people are afraid they can catch cancer or something). Make a meal and take it over for the family, I know my dad appreciated that when my mom had cancer.
2007-02-05 20:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by aqx99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋