How many times does your rellationship come up for "review" with your partner. How many times have you been told that your partner is at thier breaking point?
Why does it seem like it's always a cycle?
2007-02-05 09:32:09 · 12 answers · asked by mauikittie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
4 times a year with 1 good fight somewhere in there .
2007-02-05 09:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your partner is looking for excuses. I have been married 6 years and we never used the term "breaking point". I know that we had some issues that left us at a standstill because we didnt know how to fix it. But it was never a point when it was just too much. We agreed that we would try everything possible to resolve the issue.
It seems like many marriages so through a time when it seems like things just arent coming together. But if there is only one or a few issues that the relationshihp has I suggest sticking it out because it usually gets better.
2007-02-05 17:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my significant other nine years... two of which we've been married. Our relationship rarely comes up for review. My husband has never told me he is at a breaking point because we really get along well. I am the only one who gets grouchy sometimes and it is usually because I have my own issues, not because he is actually causing any problems. There seems to be a cycle only if you don't deal with the root issues. If youhave a problem and only half way deal with it, then you can brush it under the rug for a few months, then it will come back, full force. To stop the sycle you have to commit to changing your relationship. It is hard, but it's been done before!
2007-02-05 17:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by SixEldest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's never happened with my husband and I. (We've been together a total of 10 1/2 years, married for 6 1/2.) I'm not saying we never have moments that we get on each others nerves, but we always work things out with no problem.
2007-02-05 17:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and the answer is never. We've had a couple of bad fights and other arguments along the way, but even at our low points we never put the relationship at risk. That's a sign of a weak relationship (or just an emotional blackmailing partner). Either way, you don't pull off the highway until it's really time to get off.
2007-02-05 17:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for five years and to be honest with you we never review our relationship. We are very much in love and we both have a lot in common with each other and we made it a point to surround ourselves with friends that have a no-nonsense relationship also. We never fight, in fact I really don't think we have had a misunderstanding ever. We were both looking for a low maintenance relationship when we met and that is what we got and it's great!! Sounds like you are into a very high maintenance relationship and trust me it's not worth it.
2007-02-05 17:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by nthernlites40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it really shouldnt come up for "review" unless there are problems, there for the cycling of this is caused by not dealing with and solving these problems. if there are issues i would suggest talking over things that bother one another, and tryin to come up with solutions and compromises for these problems. if not this will always happen until 1 partner has enough and leaves the relationship. if talking amoung yourselves is difficult, or you feel your point isnt being understood, then i would seek marriage counseling and go from there, it does alot of good for relationships and ones self to. good luck.
2007-02-05 17:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by saphirespice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stresses and test on a marriage can do one of two things - either make people realize there is work to be done, or cause people to give up. Depends on you.
Kind of like your engine light coming on. You can either take it to the shop and do what needs to be done, or you can ignore it until it falls apart and becomes garbage. Your choice.
Take advantage of "review" as soon as it comes up.
2007-02-05 17:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never and never. In my past marriage, the first time it "came up for review" was when we split up (after 5 years together). Just got remarried again not so long ago, together for 2 years, it hasn't "come up for review" yet, we're both happy with how things are working out.
2007-02-05 17:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We have been married for 33 years, and this has never happened to us. We had one point when I was ready to leave because I was the only one married, but he finally got it, and we haven't had any problems since then.
2007-02-05 17:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋