My best friend's little girl is nearly 4 years old and is the flower girl in my wedding. She had been sick with a low grade fever before coming, but my friend (her mom) said she was fine the day before they left. Our friend came up here with her and she seemed fine until Saturday night. I was giving her a bath and she had caked up dirt under her toe nails and screamed about having her hair washed. I used baby shampoo on her and when we asked if her mom uses the same shampoo on her that she uses on herself she said yes. Our mutual friend told me that her mom left her toothbrush at the grandma's house and it had been there for over a month. She had not brushed the girl's teeth in that long! We bought her toothpaste, a toothbrush, and medicine for the horrible cough and fever she had. My best friend refuses to take her to a doctor saying its just the "crud". She also lives in a dirty trailer with rotten floors and it is drafty. The little girl sleeps on a love seat with one blanket.
2007-02-05 09:31:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have tried talking to her and she is adament about not taking her to the doctor. I can't help with babysitting because I live 4 hours away. She doesn't know if her daughter is even covered by Medicaid. She has two days off a week and doesn't go to the office to check on it. Her little girl told me while she was up here with me that she didn't want to go home to her mommy she wanted to stay at my house. She had a high fever and did not feel well when she said that. That broke my heart. I want to talk to her before I call, but its hard when she will not return my calls. I think she knows I want to talk to her about it, and tries to ignore me.
2007-02-05 09:44:52 · update #1
Okay to the person that said I should have done something long ago and shame on me...I had no idea what was going on. I live 4 HOURS AWAY!!! I was told about the toothbrush when she got to my house by another friend, not the mother. I was also told about the housing situation then too. I used to live down there when this little girl was a baby. It is totally different now than it was then. She actually had a clean nice apartment and took care of the little girl. She has 3 kids now and the little girl is the oldest.
2007-02-05 09:53:10 · update #2
you should not even be asking this question! yes report her. if this child is not getting medicine neither are the other's. they should have a bed to sleep in with sheets and blankets, and a decent hot meal at night to fill there hungry little bellies. "OUR CHILDREN, ARE OUR FUTURE". what would you do in her situation........would you want your friends to stand by......left untreated this child could get worse and die........
2007-02-05 10:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tracey S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try helping your friend first before reporting her. Maybe she doesn't have the funds to provide the necessities. It doesn't mean she is a bad mother. Why not offer to help out either with babysitting or with some meals? Sometimes as a single mother, the toughest decision is whether to pay a bill or buy necessities. Don't judge her until you know for sure what the situation is. If she is truly negelecting the child, then report her. It is your duty as her best friend.
2007-02-05 09:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it...simple as that. There are too many resources for your friend to utilize in order to get all kinds of assistance for her daughter (financial, medical, etc.). I see no reason why a child should have to suffer like that...if your friend is not responding to you efforts (which she clearly is not), then do what is best for the child and report her. I understand your want to do what's best to appease your friend, but no child should endure such treatment for any reason.
2007-02-05 09:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by MissDiva1228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The faster you do it the better , if she does it to her own child all this time do you think she is going to change her ways overnight? if even you talk to her or try to persuade her ?? No, people like that DO NOT change .
And all this time that little girl is neglected .
In my opinion you should help the child , the child is what matters, not that filthy mother.
2007-02-05 09:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, yes i would because anything can happen to that child and if someone askes you if you knew anything about her not paying the child any attention and you tell the truth and say yes you could get in trouble because you knew and didn`t say anything to help the child. your friend might get mad at you or stop being your friend but when it all comes down to it you did the right thing by helping that child or saving his or her life.
2007-02-05 09:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by kasydnie36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would, would u want to be that little girl?? I've seen a similar situtaion, and they took the kids away until she was able to care for her children better.
2007-02-05 09:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would for the childs sake she needs to be treated better than that.
for one thing i don't think they tell who called, but the main thing is helping the child.
you could try talking to her, but it probably won't help it's up to you.
but in my oppinion kids come first
2007-02-05 09:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report her to welfare ,she is irresponsible and is putting her little girl at risk.She doesn't deserve to have this little girl. She needs to be educated on childcare......
2007-02-05 09:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't reported this numerous times, why are you still alive? Shame on her and you.
2007-02-05 09:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by zombiefighter1988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah I think i would..you have to think about the child and not hurting the parents feelings.
2007-02-05 09:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋