My boyfriend recently took my ATM card and took money from me (this has happend several times before) I got mad at him but now for some reason he has come up with some lame excuse for him to be mad at me. Like i'm not wearing his promise ring ( I don't wear it because I don't want to lose it cause it doesn't fit) But everytime we fight he always turns the blame around on me if he's the one doing wrong. Why does he do this?
2007-02-05 09:27:10 · 11 answers · asked by Tara A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, you need to get rid of the promise ring and your boyfriend...this is no way to live!
2007-02-05 09:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, what is he doing taking your ATM card? Why does he have your PIN number? Change your pin, and this will take care of the ATM problem. Second, he sounds like a typical loser - no matter what you ask of him, or what you tell him to do or not to do, he will always find the way to make up an excuse, or to put the blame back onto you. Don't fall for it. Get rid of him, and get someone who treats you with respect. Just one fact alone that he STEALS from you should be absolutely unacceptable in a relationship. If you tolerate this, you will have to tolerate other disrespect from him, it is a slippery slope. Don't EVER allow anyone to disrespect you - it should be a golden rule; if you do, you've got no one but yourself to blame for the abuse.
2007-02-05 09:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just cannot take responsibility for their own actions. It's a very immature way to not deal with the fact that they are in the wrong. It's also very manipulative and controlling. After much of this kind of emotional abuse, you begin to doubt your own self...and feel guilt when you know you've done nothing wrong. He's throwing a hook out. Don't bite it. Tell him to stop behaving like an elementary child and passing the buck onto you. And....dump him and find quality material before you even consider marrying!
2007-02-05 09:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a bullying tactic that is a way to deflect blame from his own actions. It's very juvenile and he needs to grow up. Carefully explain that if he takes your ATM card, it is stealing. He can get mad about you about other things, but you don't care and it doesn't change the core issue. Tell him that not only will you break up with him if he continues to do crap like that (CHANGE YOUR PIN!), but you will alert the police.
2007-02-05 09:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you put up with it.
Change the PIN and don't tell him the new PIN for your card. If he asks why, remind him of his past issues....
He steals money from you because the ring he bought you doesn't fit?????
He is an idiot. He does this because you have thus far agreed to date an idiot. When you decide not to date an idiot anymore, either he will stop being an idiot or you will stop dating him.
2007-02-05 09:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this happens alot with guys, yew would think they do this because they dont wanna be the one that is being blamed only but to share the blame(or misery, haha) with everone, but its cause they feel as if tehy can do what they want and shouldnt be blamed for it but feel mad for being blamed for it...so whoever is blaming them, they think is the wrongdoer...and when they see that the person(yew) are not the wrongdoer, then they think of something else to blame(thus the promise ring) comfront him, i mean it could turn iinto a big problem, ive seenit happen to me, dont control him, jsut confront him, good luck girlie=]
2007-02-05 09:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does this because he knows that he is wrong and apparently can win arguments by making you feel stupid. The boy, and yes I mean boy, obviously has no repect for you. Get rid of his lying, stealing butt before he starts doing more than just lying and stealing from you.
2007-02-05 09:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Grinch 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is just playing the 'blame game'. He needs to justify his behavior so he blames you.It's a form of abuse.
2007-02-05 10:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a way of getting the focus off of him
2007-02-05 09:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have him put in jail for taking your debit card unless you let him your just a girlfriend not a wife
2007-02-09 06:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋