Family problems?

Question

I am 15, gonna be 16 in less than a month. I just found out last nite that my father is divorcing my stepmother of almost 10 years. The thing is, she is not acting as though they are getting a divorce. Since my father informed me of this, I believe that she does not know. I dispise my stepmom for numerous reasons, so this is actually good news. The bad part is that her family has bacome my own and i will miss them. Another thing is that I don't know if my dad was telling the truth or if he was if he is gonna follow through on it, or what. He told both me and my brother (11) last nite. I am confused. Help?

Answer 1

I know it's confusing, you are only 15. But your dad will do what he wishes, better or for worse. Talk to him, and let him know that you are confused, ask him to explain. Afterall, let him know that you love him and you want the best for him. There are many things in life you have no control over. Remember, he loves you and your brother very much, that's why he taked to both of you last night so you won't be surprised. Let him know that you also need a family counseling, maybe with him and your brother.

Answer 2

Your father may be 'getting a divorce' but you don't have to 'participate' with that divorce in the way he is if you don't want to ... which means that you can still 'be related to' those people whom you 'love' and that they can still 'be related to you' and you should be 'allowed' to see them if you want to. I'd say the same is true for your brother, but since he's younger you should at least 'offer to watch him' when he's with these 'divorced relatives' just to make sure he's safe. And your father probably 'told the two of you' before he talked to your 'step-mother' to keep you from 'wondering' if 'bad stuff' happens during or after their 'talk' about it. You need to 'keep quiet' about all of this (and your brother, too) until your dad has 'time' to 'move you out' or has asked your stepmother to move out ... and to be 'best' really both your brother and you need to 'say nothing' to your dad or to anyone else about this 'divorce' and the 'way you feel' about it, because it is your DAD and HIS DIVORCE and not 'yours' ...