A hard question: Christians, please answer.?

Question

My friend and I are both Christians, although I admit I'm not where I should be right now. My friend just went through a miscarriage, and she keeps asking, "Why did God take away my baby? Why do you hear about these criminals on the news that have perfectly healthy children? Why do they get to keep their kids, and I don't?" I really don't know what to say. Are there any Bible verses I can give to her to help her with this? Is there anything I can say?

Answer 1

James 1:13 "with evil things God cannot be tried." GOD IS NOT RESPONSIBLE!
1 John 5:19 "the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one." SATAN IS THE CAUSE OF ALL SUFFERING!
Rev. 21:4 "death and pain will be no more" GOD WILL UNDO ALL REASONS FOR PAIN AND SUFFERING!

The book of Job can also be comforting. It tells of all the suffering that Job went through and why God allowed it.

Answer 2

I agree with the people talking about the story of Job. He was put through quite alot. No matter what you say to her, its still going to hurt. She lost her baby and its very upsetting. She just needs to keep faith in God. She will have a baby one day. It just wasnt now and there is always a reason for a miscarriage. I ask the same kind of questions sometimes and I have never had a miscarriage. But I still wonder why some people are allowed children Then there are such good Christian people that cant even have children or their children are taken away by miscarriages, or terrible accidents. No one understands, but everyone should still have Faith. Im sorry for your friends loss.

Answer 3

Maybe the child would have had a severe disorder and God didn't want the child to go through that. Or maybe the child was going to grow up to be a criminal or worse, and God didn't want that to happen. Hypothetically, if your friend spoke to God and he said that the unborn child would grow up and end up taking the lives of 10 innocent people in a horrible crime, this was a blessing in disguise and she would probably be happy. In fact, if God told you first hand that the child was the next Jeffrey Dahlmer would your friend still want to have the child knowing what the child was going to do later in life? I don't know God's will, but I do know that He knows things we don't and sometime we just don't and can't understand. Of course we can't have a conversation with God like that, and I have no idea of the reason, but if we simply assume that God had a good reason for it, even one that we don't know of nor understand, that should help your friend to sleep at night. The Lord works in mysterious ways, and I'm sure the next one will go just fine, and she'll have a happy, healthy, wonderful child.

Answer 4

Okay,

I might be able to help.
I was baptized, confirmed as a Catholic. I recently converted to Seventh Day Adventist w/my husband.

To make this short as I can. In the Old Testament it really explains how God, The Father cares, and what we are all destined to be and do here on earth. I am so sorry for your friend's loss. But one thing I can assure you of , is also being a devoted Christian as I can, some good and wonderful things will come out of this ordeal for her. I don't know why that is. It happens to all of us this way; things happen when you least expect them to. And we all have to deal with the worst before it gets better. God does work in mysterious ways.

Answer 5

I'm not a Christian, but as a woman, I can tell you this: even if you could give her the REASON, it won't take the pain away. Try to ease her pain without answering her questions. There are no answers. We just have to trust in God. God knows all.
Can't help you with the Bible verses.

Answer 6

I lost my first bay when I was 4 & 1/2 months pregnant. I couldnt understand why God would do that to me either.
from that experiance I figured out that these babies are too good for this earth and God takes them straight to heaven to be angels. We are blessed to able to love them for the short time they are with us.
I wasnt ready at that time to have a baby and God knew it and that is why he took my baby. Also if I hadnt lost that baby I wouldnt have given birth to my beautiful daughter.
I then miscarried another baby after having my daughter and again I wasnt ready, a few months later I fell pregnant again and I gave birth to another beautiful girl.
Because I lost a child before each of my girls was born, I think that God wanted these girls as he has great plans for them in future. I know they are blessed and that they were meant to be. The two babies that I lost it just wasnt there time. And God wanted them more than me.

I hope this helped.

Answer 7

GOD HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR FRIEND HAVING A MISCARRIAGE. God does not make bad things happen to people, your friend had a miscarriage because something was not normal with the pregnancy. Having faith in God is a wonderul thing but it is important to understand that He does not control the things that happen to you. Your friend needs to see this as a positive thing because her body recognized that something was wrong and nature took its course. I'm sure she will go on to have a normal pregnancy in the future and a beautiful baby.

Answer 8

The entire book of Job is about the most Godly, holy man in all the land. And God tests him over and over. He takes away his riches, kills off his family, and gives him boils and lesions all over his body. The point was/is that being Godly and holy is a wonderful blessing in and of itself--it doesn't mean that God will keep bad things from happening to you. In fact, your life may be even harder as you struggle to live in the world but not be of it. In James (I think) the writer rejoices in his suffering and praises God for it becuase he knows it is making him humble and it shows him that he needs God. There are lots of ways suffering helps us. Google "suffering" and "Bible verse" or look up suffering in the index of your Bible and see what you find.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I truly understand her question as to why unfit people get to keep their children after doing horrendous things to them. But, as to the miscarriage question. I tend to think it is natures way of taking care of something that isn't physically right with the baby.
There are many reason's why miscarriages happen, physical, stress, etc. But, you don't say if she will be able to have another baby. If she can then she should be allowed to grieve and then just be there for her. And pray for her and with her for peace and understanding.God's blessings to your friend.