What is wrong...?

Question

My step daughter is really silent all the time. She is 13. She has not once been disrespectful to me or my daughter but she never looks me or my husband in the face. When we talk at the dinner table she just looks down at her food and doesn't say a word to either of us. She talks to her siblings regularly but doesn't say much to her half sister. When we are all involved in a conversation in the car she is in her own little world. She doesn't say much to us but she does what she is told and stuff. She never EVER is rude or disobeys. She doesn't speak unless spoken to. And has very few friends and isn't trying to make any. She always seperates herself from the crowd unless with her siblings or her boyfriend she locks the door to her room so I cannot be in I do not want to be nosy and search it but I am becoming more and more worried about her. I have tried bonding with her but she always goes off by herself.

Her boyfriend is like a "gangsta" I haven't met him much but I really am not sure if she should be with him. I also heard him tell her she looks sexy.





Also he is 15. She goes over to his house and my husband does nothing about it. I love her just as much as I love the daughter me and my husband have together and don't want anything to happen to her. What should I do about this?

Also please keep in mind more then one family shares this account!

Answer 1

Something is not right. I suggest maybe seeking out some counseling. Although 13 is a hard age.

Answer 2

Well I am saying this from a "kids point of view" I'f I was acting like that it would probably have to be because I was a bit jealous and felt slightly unloved, I would also be like that if my boyfriend was telling me things that were against you.Like:Your parents are mean you know they like the daughter the had together better than you!And I would probably be trying to be all obediant in order for you guys to keep my trust and let me go to his house.

I say I'f you really need to investigate, but if you do make sure you dont get caught! I would get so mad at my parents if they were snooping unless it were really for my own good, but never let her know for she will never trust you in a bad situation.

I am 12, I'm not allowed to date until 15, so I would'nt be able to try and guess if this "gangsta" guy is a creep, I say yes, because what is a 15 year-old doing with a 13 year-old? that spells P-E-R-V-E-R-T and heartbreaker

Answer 3

It is very normal for girls at your step daughters age to not want much to do with her parents/step parents. It doesnt mean that anything is wrong, she may just need her space. If you are concerend maybe set up family time to do an activity like play a game or whatever. As for her boyfriend, if anyone other than herself makes a judgemnet on him she will resent them for it I promise you this...Just let her have her space and if it gets too "weird" have her dad, no offence but not you, ask her questions of your concern...hope this helps!!

Answer 4

I'm not a therapist or anything like that but from what you say, she seems to be hiding something, my niece did the same thing and it turned out my niece had been being molested and physically abused by the moms boyfriend . try talking to her tell her you feel she is just as much YOUR DAUGHTER as her dads even though u didn't birth her and explain if anyone has ever done anything to her that made her feel uncomfy then she can tell you about it and you and her will work something out

Answer 5

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Answer 6

all you can do is love them, they chose to love back or not. it sounds like she feels very threatened and is afraid that if she say anything out of line, then out she goes. It sounds like her dad either doesn't care, or doesn't know how to handle the situation. many men are incapable of dealing with emotional matters. as this is his daughter, he's better wake up a little.

13 is a hard age, those hormones are starting to rage...

good luck.

Answer 7

im 15 so this may kind of be alittle different but im the same way kind of and i dont get involved with things my family does (my parents are divorced and have been for a long time) i dont like making new friends because the ones i have made dont even talk to me anymore im afraid of losing the people i care about she maybe the same way.

Answer 8

Try talking with her, make conversation. There may be something that she is wanting to tell you. Be open with her, but also remember she is only 13.

Answer 9

It sounds like she may be depressed. Maybe go do something with just her and she might open up and tell you what is bothering her.

Answer 10

my guess it shyness/ depression
if her room is locked she might just be crying in there
or doing nothing
or maybe she is cutting herself
check her room wen shes not home
talk to her
share somethin special with her