About 4 1/2 months ago me and my husband were NOT getting along. Without the other realizing it we both had some 'really good chances' to cheat on the other. We both came close but neither did the deed. We(again without the other even knowing this) both decided we loved each other to much. Now that everything is out in the open my husband is extremely jealous. Like overboard. He doesnt even want me going to a concert with one of my friends(a girl) because he aint going. I mean Im little more jealous now to but NO where near his level. What can I do?? Its getting crazy.
2007-02-05 08:59:46 · 11 answers · asked by southerngirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The marriage is in trouble if there is trust issues. You two must really work at getting the trust back into the marriage. Also, even though it is a good thing to be open and honest, there is some issues that should not have been discused. Since you nor him cheated then I see no good it did to bring up on how you two came close to cheating. I really feel the subject of cheating was put out there for manipulative purposes only. You two could really benefit from marriage counseling. Good luck to you both.
2007-02-05 09:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much Im afraid. You both had an equal share in making this bed, so neither is equally to blame for the outcome. Maybe with enough time things will change. Its harder for a male to come to grips with this than a female. So give it a little more time and if it doesnt change then youll have to decide whether youre better off with or without him. Good luck
2007-02-05 09:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it being a guy but turn the tables. Does he go out with guy friends without you? or go out drinking? Do what he does to you to prove a point. Love is awsome but it is not hard. you will have to show him how he smothers you by smothering him. He may take it the wrong wy but if you have told him he is doing this and he is not getting it then do it back to show him. Us as in men can be blind in love sometimes as women can. But talking is the more important thing here sit him down tell him again if you were going to do it you would have but didnt cause you loved him. and that if he keeps this up it will push you away. Communication is the KEY to any relationship no matter what talk it out if possible. Actions after words is the way to do it.
2007-02-05 09:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mektaruin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he not telling you something...you both had a chance to cheat and choose not to...I can understand you both getting jealous over certain things...but you still decided in the end that it wasn't worth it and that you still were in love...sounds like counseling might help both of you with these issues...if you love each other things will find a way to work out....
2007-02-05 09:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just let him know that too much jealously destroys relationships and can turn too people that are madly in love into bidder enemies. Just sit down and talk to him about your feelings and if he only uses this to become even more jealous then he has some serious issues and you should both go to counseling.
2007-02-05 09:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by postmasterfsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you talked, you didn't do anything . So he now doesn't trust you, Of course nothing is said about him.
Ether you make up or live in turmoil, He might want you but doesn't need you , Get counseling see if that helps
if not make a choice life to short for this.
Good luck
2007-02-05 09:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its good that you can talk about things and be honest with each other now. so you need to talk some more and tell him he has nothing to worry about, but that he needs to stop smothering you.
this could turn dangerous. does he have a controlling nature regardless? be carefull, you both need to learn to totally trust each other again and he is not going about it by becoming a control freak.
2007-02-05 09:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont balme him, he is insecure now that he knows you can go out and get someone else if you want to. but at the same time dont let him make you a prisoner. you need to make some ground rules
2007-02-05 09:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by SICX13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't have been getting it "out in the open"... Bad idea. Now you're just have to deal with it, I guess.
If you think he "came close" but didn't "do" it - think again.
2007-02-05 09:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure him that you love him & only him...Then find a Cute (not sexy) outfit & go have a fun girls night out...Come home and let him know HE is YOUR man...
2007-02-05 09:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋