Ok.
I think he knows, but he ignores me and that is fine. I make no effort to call, and I have not. But the feelings are still there.
2007-02-05 08:58:33 · 27 answers · asked by wedding b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can you love this man? Have you spent any time with him? Do you know what he's like besides the place you know him at? Those feelings you have are not love, to be in love you have to know them, spent time with them, share some kind of life with him to be in love with someone. I think your carious, might have a crush on him, but not in love. Is good to hear that you haven't made any moves on him. You know hes married in your respecting that. But lets say he, he does know and he acted on that. Have you thought of what you would do? I hope you continue to do the right thing. You don't want a liar and a cheater as your man. All you be the other women, second in his life. You will never have him 100%. He never will spent Christmas or Thanksgiving or Easter or new years with you. Those holidays will be spent with his wife/family. What will you do. standing by the window looking at the phone hoping he call. That's the life of the other women. Don't do it. All you be doing is wasting your time. 4yrs is along time to think your in love with someone. I know your not waiting for him to notice you. go read ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger
2007-02-05 09:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know a single person who isn't insecure about something. It's very difficult not to be. I'm sure your fiance has insecurities, too. How about you ask him about them some time to help you see you're not alone in how you feel about yourself? Maybe post a yahoo question that asks people to list their insecurities, I'll bet you get a lot of responses. Also, even if your fiance were to never look at porn, and he were to tell you how beautiful he thinks you are on a daily basis, you'd probably still feel kind of bad about yourself. It's YOU that definitely needs to change, not him necessarily. I doubt he has a porn addiction and with all the images of young, skinny women on the internet these days, they're almost impossible to avoid, even if he doesn't go to actual porn sites. Ask him to take down the wallpaper if it bothers you and let him know it hurts your feelings that he comments on other people being attractive without ever complimenting you. If he won't do that then he's not the right man for you. You deserve to be with someone who finds you attractive, which even though it sounds like you think you're ugly, I'm sure there are many men out there who would disagree. Also, it's very important to work on your self esteem. Life is not all about looks and being young and sexy. You're getting older, this is natural, coming to terms with this in whatever you can will help you immensely. Body parts are going to naturally migrate south due to gravity and unless you're disciplined about working out and eating well, you're not going to have a "perfect" body. In fact, I know of many middle-aged people who work out and eat well and they're still not happy with how they look because of the natural process of aging. Accept the fact that you're not going to have this body forever, that there are other things to who you are, more important things, in fact. Your intellect, you personality, your passions, your hobbies, etc. are all very important aspects to who you are, especially because they are there no matter how wrinkled, fat or old you look. Do yourself a favor and allow yourself to have whatever body you have and find someone who accepts you as you.
2016-03-29 06:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thank God you do have some self control. Your best bet is to try and find something to do. Find a way that you can just get him out of your mind.
If you see him everyday, find a way where you don't have to see him all the time. Keep that self control going also cause you could get into major trouble if you start harrassing him. Good luck and hang in there. Eventually you will get over him. It seems like you wont now, but you will.
2007-02-05 09:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rhea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is get over it. apparently he's not into you.
just because someone is nice to you doesn't mean they want you. don't be a homewrecker,you wouldn't like it if someone was in love with your husband.you are a mean and selfish person.it is a sin to want someone elses husband.The way you are acting might be ruining that mans life..move on and stay away from him so that you can forget about him.get your own man.make sure he's single.stop wanting another persons man that is insane.you are not inlove you are obsessed.GET OVER IT!people like you
give women a bad name.and i'm a guy.I think women who can't respect men that are married are sluts and have no self respect.
He ignores you cuz he doesn't want you..get the point! BACK OFF!
2007-02-05 09:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Digz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let it go! He's ignoring you because he's married and doesn't want to leave his marriage, he never did. From how you talk I believe you've done gave him your cherry so I'll say this. Let him be, and find another white man who is single. The feelings will heal with time and nothing will get you over him quicker than being with another man, and I promise you, you'll feel good to get the attention.
2007-02-05 09:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Bombay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the married man alone, A woman should have respect for other women and think about how the wife would feel if you moved in on her hubbie , back away, find a man thats available. Color doesnt matter
2007-02-05 09:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by zarem 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, he's married. and that means he's off limits. every time you start to look at him as more than a friend, just picture him with his wife and family. think about him changing dirty diapers, taking the garbage out, buying tampons for his wife, and hemorrhoid cream for himself. that should help you see him a little differently! and think about these things every time you start feeling dreamy about him okay? it will work!
and then you start focusing on what's right for you. you deserve to be happy with someone who is single and can give you all the things that this married man can't. you need a guy who will make you smile, laugh, respects you, spends time with you, can openly take you out to dinner and a movie, and thinks that you're number one! that's the kind of relationship you want, need, and deserve! just start by giving some guys a chance. you've been in love with a married man for four years! it's time for you to spend some time getting to know guys you could really have a relationship with! just give them a chance okay? you owe yourself that much!
Take Care and give single guys a chance to make you happy! I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Best Wishes:)
2007-02-05 09:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by atiana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to escape the fantasy world and move into reality. Your "knight in shining armour" may be right in front of your face but you're not going to know because your focus is on a man that you may never have. It's perfectly healthy to have feelings for someone that is unattainable. It is perfectly unhealthy to let your life revolve around those feelings.
2007-02-05 09:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Carlover29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what color he is, but the fact still remains that he's MARRIED!!! We all get feelings and thoughts in our minds, but acting upon them is a different thing. Just think if it were your husband, and some chick was wanting him, wouldn't you be proud he's ignore her? You know you would!!! But most of all, wouldn't you hope the bit*h would go find the nearest railroad track and lay down on it? You bet!! Theirs millions of men out there, all different colors-that are SINGLE!!!
2007-02-05 09:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by sue d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First what does race have to do with it? After 4 yrs. I would move on.He is married and is being a good husband ignoring you or any one else. Look for a single man.
2007-02-05 09:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋