Do you think I will be interested in sex once I have the baby??

Question

I am 3 months preg. and have NO INTEREST WHATSOEVER IN SEX...I HATE it....once a week my hubby sort of pushes me into doing it....I HATE IT!!! and I think I will FOREVER hate it....anyone experienced same but after baby didnt mind any sex....whats wrong..I am so nervous..I mean I just feel very bad for hubby

Answer 1

you should be ..im the same way..i was told it would change in different trimesters or even months and it didnt for me..i will be 7 months on feb 25 and i still have no desire to have sex too..im hoping after the baby it will change..i guess the only thing is to pray...lol...good luck and congrats.

Answer 2

It's normal. Right now I hate the thought. We can thank our hormones for that. My hubby doesn't push me, but it makes me feel bad so I try to do it at least once a week. Don't tell my hubby though. He can turn me on but then my light switch goes off. I'm hoping mine comes back soon. I was a time bomb in the first trimester. I didn't think it was possible to want it so much. Now in my second trimester just the thought of it turns me off. I thought it was supposed to be the other way around. First trimester turnoff, second sex drive again. Go figure.

14 weeks and 4 days pregnant.

Answer 3

You may be feeling that way right now because your still in the first trimester. You might be having tons of morning sickness and are always tired? This may have a lot to do with it. Once your in the second trimester you will be feeling tons better and have more energy also your hormones may kick into over drive and want to have sex all the time. When i had my son i thought i'm never having sex again because of all the pain i went through i never wanted to have another baby. But, that didn't last long! As soon as my body healed and i started feeling human again our sex life was just as it was before our son.
You think it will never be the same again but don't worry it will.
For now talk to your husband and tell him exactly how you feel, i'm sure he'll understand.

Answer 4

my husband and I stopped having sex at 7 months, it was mid summer without a/c. We tried right before my due date in hopes of helping labour along, it delayed it another nearly 2 weeks after my due date. We tried having sex 3 months after giving birth to our son. He was a big baby, 8Lbs8oz and I had to have 12 stitches to repair a tear. I was in too much pain to think about sex after that. So at 3 months we tried for the first time and I was in pain and I bled a little. We stopped shortly after starting, thank goodness I have an understanding husband, he was worried about me, he didn't care about finishing. After I had my post delivery check-up I was still hurting, exactly where the stitches had been, but I was physically fine and my check-up was clear. At 6 months past delivery we tried again, I was more than ready to have sex again but I was still in a little pain. Now our son is 27 months old and I stil experience some pain during sex if my hubby presses to hard where the stitches were.

After you get settled in a routine and your body heals you will feel more like yourself again. Many women feel like this, some stop having sex as soon as they test positive and don't start again until well after delivery. You may just change your mind as your pregnancy goes on, your hormones are all over the place and your body is going through many changes right now, it is totally normal right now. But I would tell your husband that he needs to stop pressuring you into having sex if you don't want it, honey if you are saying no it is still rape. He has a hand and there is pleanty of porn videos out there and even more online, he can amuse himself from the comforts of your own home. My husband does this if I am not in the mood or on my period, I don't care, I just don't want him bugging me when I am not up for it.

I wish you the best.

Answer 5

You don't have anything to worry about. The Pregnancy effects everyone in different ways and also each pregnancy is different. And the after wards depends that is also different for everyone. Honestly the best thing to do is talked it over with your husband. You may find out that it is something small you can get over with personally or it is something you are afraid of happening.

With the first pregnancy I did have problems with the same thing but closer to the end I got a lot more willingness to start the flirting. And with the second pregnancy I had change from before I got pregnant.

Then again one of our close friends when she got pregnant she quit everything Sex,Drinking, Smoking and actually didn't want to even try to get close to her husband till the baby was about 6mths old.

Answer 6

I agree that pregnancy effects everyone in a different way. As for me, when I was pregnant for the very first time...I couldn't get enough of it, but after I had the baby I could do very well without it. You're not that far into your pregnancy just yet, so there's a possibility that things may change for you. Just tell hubby to hang in there with ya!

Answer 7

Well, I am pregnant with twins! But I still have sex. It is a weird feeling though, because my hubby will forget I'm pregnant and start getting all on top of me, but I will have to tell him. Plus, I am all in the front and the babbies will kick and I think my hubby is kicking me while we are having sex.
But, I did have sex while the babbies were taking naps, or just playing.

Answer 8

me and my hubby would go at it every day literaly at least once a day. when i was preg. i hardly felt like doing it he was so used to us doing it all the time that when i became preg. and didnt give him none hed have a attitude. wed do it at least 2-5 times a month though but now ever since my daughter was born 3 months ago we hardly do it. i mean i work i take care of my baby and also clean the house daily b/c he is messy. i spend the rest of the day after work which is 4 hrs with my baby give all my attention to her untill she falls alseep between 9-10pm im so worn out by that time that i just want to sleep but we just need to find a little energy to give them what they want after all what are relationships for to have a girlfriend or boyfriend its so we can have a f***buddy right.

Answer 9

During the second trimester, sex is usually really good. I didn't want to have sex until about 5-6 months. Sex after the baby is different, but will get back to normal w/ time; kegel exercises help a lot! Good luck to you, we've all been there.

Answer 10

Everyone is different. I have 2 kids and have never been that interested in sex. I don't HATE it but I don't look for it either if you know what I mean. My sex drive is low and it always has been. Hubby complains about it. Sometimes I just do it so he'll leave me alone.

Answer 11

You know what? What you are experiencing is normal for some women...
Why don't you 2 go away for the weekend or just to a motel and relax, enjoy each other..
Do you really love your husband? Are you angry you got pregnant and blaming it on him?
We think crazy things when we are pregnant sometimes....
Good luck and count your blessings your husband is so attentive to you.. Have a long talk with him and explain you are not interested in sex right now and prayerfully he will understand.
So many other things you can do without the actual penetration...