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2007-02-05 08:40:11 · 22 answers · asked by hillleej 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband and his ex are not on civil terms. The last time I spoke to her she was ranting and rave about my husband and how she was going to sue him over this and that. I have tried to be civil to her because of his daughter, but I can only take so much. We have already bought her some new furniture and his daughter has made no mention of me coming. Her father and her have a great relationship, and she and I get along ok. But the ex is a drama mama!!
2007-02-05 09:24:38 · update #1
YES YOU SHOULD girl,
i know iam in the same place as you are an i know that you should go. for one they may not like you an his x in laws an his x wife may not like you but your part of your step daughters life to,
my step son hates going to my hubbies x inlaws house in less i go with him an it pisses his mother off but it makes me fell good inside coz i got what she wants back. an when you go make shure you look as good as you can just to say hay iam part of her life to. an keep standin your grownd dont be walkin on egg shals for them
2007-02-05 08:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by SGT SEXY MAMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited and everyone is on friendly terms by all mean attend. They would not have invited you if they didn't want you there.
However, if there is bad blood, or you just caught wind of the housewarming, but didn't recieve an official invitation then stay away. You don't want to make a big day for the stepdaughter into a stressful.
2007-02-05 17:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Wealth of useless information 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u were invited, most definately..
Although i understand the uncomfortableness of being around the husbands x..
Only questions i have is.. is it being held in a nurtral zone.. ur step daughters house, or at a public place.. (u dont feel so much off or your territory if its in a nutral zone.. )
As i know id struggle with it if it was being held at her mothers house or at a relatives house on her mothers side..
But the most important thing is to always support ur step daughter, there are going to be times in her life even though shes an adult that your presence and her mothers presence are going to be needed by ur step daughter.
Try to always put ur focus on your step daughter and just be yourself and be civil with her mother, thats all anyone can ever ask of u to do , and if she cant be civil back she'll only show what kind of a person she is and u'll always end up on top..
2007-02-05 16:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited and you want to support your step-daughter....then yes by all means you should go. Remember, when you married him he had a ex and children. Be the classy and better person and go and build the bridge that will make this family functional. Have Fun and be gracious, after all you are in this family now.
2007-02-05 16:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on if you were invited, and how the relationship between all of you is. if it's good, then go. if it's bad between you and the ex, then just tell the stepdaughter that you will not be attending because of your strained relationship with her mom. i'm sure she will understand. just make sure you get her a gift, and tell her that you would love to come over at a different occasion.
2007-02-05 16:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why is her housewarming party at someone else's house??? That is not how it goes....this could have been done so they can all talk about you,or something to that affect but I would go, and make sure I bought the most expensive present!
2007-02-05 16:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Who Dat Chic!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in vited, of course! What better way to show them that you care about your step-Daughter, and that you have class.
(You have to be polite and not cause a "Jerry Springer" type situation to be considered "classy")
Be the bigger person! If you are uncomfortable, you can always pull her aside and say goodbye- then let her know later about the treatment you recieved. Let her handle "the other side".
2007-02-05 16:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go for it but only if you want to... You should do this for your step daughter i feel though. If you cannot attend then send her a card and a gift. If you are invited go for sure. If not then dont push it and just send her the gift and card.
2007-02-05 17:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited, then yes you should. It's for your stepdaughter. It would be very classy of you to go, and if you're uncomfortable, stay for a brief time, then leave.
2007-02-05 16:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by BVC_asst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited and get along with these people, then make an appearance, if you were invited, or don't get along with them, stay away... you can always have a little get together of your own.
2007-02-05 16:46:41 · answer #10 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋