how does negative criticism affect people in oral communication?

Answer 1

Criiticism may prevent the person that is speaking to shut down, and not be totally honest. They may be afraid and intimidated and thus afraid to speak to the person who is criticizing. The problem with criticism especially when used with vulnerable groups such as children it only teaches them to be self critical and overly critical of others. Children need to develop healthy self images so they can work towards self actualization and not get stuck forever seeing themselves as inferior.

Answer 2

It is hard to listen to and accept criticism. Most people feel bad and get angry. Rather than learn from the information, they want to "shoot the messenger."

Rather than give "negative criticism," a more effective method is "constructive feedback." It has these steps:
1. Mention the related positive good aspects of the person...the context of achievements or strengths.
2. Describe the problem behavior...put it in terms of something you observed, not an opinion or judgment.
3. Explain the impact of the behavior, how you feel about it, and why.
4. State the desired behavior...what you'd like to see in the future.
5. Ask for a commitment from the other person..."can I count on you for....?"
6. End on a positive...express confidence in the individual...promise your support and cooperation.

Answer 3

Sometime you might receive some negative criticism. Even if the other person is trying to help you, it might hurt to receive it. It is hard to admit that you have messed up! You don’t want to face the idea that you made a mistake, or you are not perfect.

Not a Good Way to Handle Negative Criticism

We can let criticism hurt us, and destroy our relationship with the person who criticizes us. Most people will try to defend themselves. “It's not MY fault...!”

When someone points out to you that you made a mistake or did wrong, you hurt inside. People don't like to feel hurt or guilty of a mistake. Sometimes people will try to escape feeling bad by trying to blame the other person instead of himself. Lots of people do that. "Teacher is not fair! She is mean! She hates me!"

Having shed the guilt by placing it on someone else, then you don't feel that you should have to change, and you don't. But if you don’t change, then there is still that negative part of you to still be ashamed of! - - - And the next time you make that same mistake, you feel even worse than before!

A Better Way to Handle Negative Criticism

With careful control of your own attitude, you don't have to be hurt when someone needs to correct or criticize you. Instead, you can use criticism to become a better person. If you can do that you will be happier.

Here is how I handle it. I say to myself something like this:

“Ouch! That hurt! Am I really that way? Is there any truth, even a little bit, in what this other person just said? Did I mess up? I don’t want to do that again! What can I learn about this and about me that will help me do better, and not make that mistake again?

Let us say that I was wrong. I acknowledge, out loud, I am wrong. I have taken responsibility for my error. I seek a way to prevent that kind of mistake in the future. Once I told a student, "You are right. I made a mistake!" (I had forgotten to record grades from 2 of his papers!) It is important to really take some time to try to figure out why you made the mistake, and how to prevent it from happening in the future. (I figured out a way to greatly reduce the possibility of doing it again. It never happened again.)

Now lets say that I do correct the problem within myself, and it is unlikely to happen again. (Here comes the really neat part!) Guess what? That person (me) who made the original mistake has changed! I no longer exist in that flawed form. I don’t have to be ashamed of my new self! Then I can feel really good about myself.

If I have removed some negative trait or a poor habit, then other people will respect me more than before. I will respect myself more. That's two Life-Goals.

Do you see what I have done here? I have taken what would be a negative event for most people, and turned it into a positive opportunity to become BETTER! When people see you do that, they will likely think, "s/he is a classy person"! It is a WIN-WIN situation!

Which ways of dealing with criticism do you chose to use?

Deny you have a problem within yourself?
Learning, change, and becoming a new and better person?..

Answer 4

Generally speaking, the person will react either in a negative way most likely, or if they are a positve person (unlikey or they wouldn't be critcized) they would use it as a learning experience and he;p them to turn it around to positive energy. So the reaction is determined by the "victims" state of mind.

Answer 5

Negatively.