She's been like a little sister to me all these years and everyone is comming down on her. Her parents kicked her out and she's been at my place the past few days. I have no problems with her staying here except my place is really small (batchelor apartment). But that's not the biggest problem as you can guess. She really wants to talk to her parents and I told her I'd go with her for support but she's really scared. Would it be ok if I talked to them first? She can stay with me as long as she needs to but things need to be worked out with her parents. What should we do?
2007-02-05 08:29:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well you sound pretty smart, talk to he rparents first but this is something big, so u need to give them time to cool off. If they are good parents theyll eventually take her back, but then again not all parents r good. Yes tlak to them first and then from their rezction take your lil sis-cuz with them. Good luck
2007-02-05 08:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should both go to her parent's house and try to talk some sense into their heads. Maybe that's why she got pregnant. Because she looked for the attention she didn't get at home elsewhere. If her parents don't support her, then you should help her as much as you can. You seem to be a great person. You are already helping her. Good Luck.
2007-02-05 09:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez.. her parents sound harsh.
first of all, she should be happy that she's pregnant, no matter what. i've been trying for the last year, and i'm finding that i can't get pregnant no matter what i do. :(
so what if she's "only" sixteen; it seems as though that's the age to have a baby these days anyway.
her parents need to realize that their daughter is pregnant with their grandchild. and when that grandchild is grown, they're going to feel stupid for not helping out his/her mother. that sounds confusing, yes, but it's SO true.
my best friend got pregnant at sixteen, too... and got kicked out and practically disowned, and what i wrote here was my exact argument to her parents. just cos their daughter is having a baby doesn't mean that their job as parents is done. they still need to claim responsibility for their child, just as they're obviously expecting her to do.
i hate it when parents do this kind of crap, seriously. like they pull the whole "she's just out of control and there's no solution" shet. when really, they're just lazy. and inconsiderate.
all props to you for taking her in and helping her. i'm sure she's very appreciative. that sucks so bad. but no matter what, you're doing the right thing. :)
2007-02-05 08:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that ot would be okay for you to talk to her parents just be sure that they as well as she knows that you are there to help her not to do everything for her. I know it is going to be hard for her I had to go through all of that too. But she is going to be a mom so if she does not already have a job she needs to get one before she starts showing to much. And she needs to get most of the stuff for the baby.. Help is always nice but you cannot let her think that you are going to be there to get her everything. And when she relizes that maybe she can sit down with her parents and explain that to them.
2007-02-05 08:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your cousin I know how hard this can be (I found out I was pregnant with I was 17) and right now she needs her parents. I think since they are family it would be fine for you to talk to them first. And tell your cousin everything will be fine. My parent's kicked me out too but they came around after my daughter was born. Good luck to you and your cousin. I hope ya'll get everything worked out with her parents.
2007-02-05 08:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for the teenage pregnancy homes. Usually run by Catholic hospitals. I know you said she can stay with you and that's great, but at the homes she can get the help and support she needs money wise and mentally. They help her work things out with her parents. Hope it all works out for you guys.
2007-02-05 08:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U SOUND PRETTY SMART SO I PERSONALLY THINK THAT U SHOULD TALK TO HER PARENTS U KNOW TELL THEM 2 UNDERSTAND WAT HAPPEN AND THAT EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES BUT YEA I DEFINETLY THINK U SHOULD TALK TO THEM FIRST THAN AFTER THAT IF THEY R OKAY UR COUSIN CAN COME AND TALK 2 THEM 2 AND GET EVERY THING BAQ 2 NORMAL AND GET EVERYTHING 2 GET BAQ IN THERE PLACE AND SHE COULD B ABLE 2 MOVE BAQ IN OR NOT BUT AS LONG AS SHE SETTLE THINGS WITH HER PARENTS THAT WOULD BE REALLY NICE TO KNOW THAT THERE GONNA SUPPORT U THE WHOLE WAY AND THAT WATEVA THEIR DECISION THEY STILL LUV HER AND THEY JUST WANTED WATS RITE FOR HER THATS WHAT ALL PARENTS I THINK WOULD WANT FOR THEIR KIDS...........
2007-02-05 08:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by mzfiestychick92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talkto her parents and say she wants to talk to u and isnt looking to come back shes fine saying with me but just realy needs to talk to u and is afriead of wat u might say.
2007-02-05 10:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by mmhhm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋