2007-02-05 08:28:56 · 16 answers · asked by andrew_kullar_1992 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have children because they make our lives richer AND because we love them so much.
Incompatibilities between us and their behaviour make us unhappy, not the children themselves.
We are responsible for our own happiness, children only make us miserable if we expect more from them than they are able to give.
I'm a tired parent of a 9 month old, but I'm happier than I have ever been.
2007-02-05 08:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by evilted_2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having children is a biological imperative. Nature intended for the human race to survive so adults have children.
However, not everyone is cut out to be a parent. And, there's no instruction manual - you just make it up as you go along.
If you are miserable being a parent even though you love your children perhaps you should seek counseling or join a parent 's support group. Parenting is hard (I know, I have three children) and sometimes talking to someone can help.
Look and see if there is a Parent's Anonymous in your area.
Updated 02/07/06
Here's something else to consider if you are miserable being a parent. Children go through different stages of emotional development. As your children go through their emotional stages, if YOU have unresolved childhood issues, unhealed childhood pain, if your emotional needs were not met when you were a child, you will have a hard time parenting your own children. You need to take care of your own issues and that might make your parenting easier.
2007-02-05 16:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have children because thats part of life. Im a young mother and got pregnant real young. And are you meaning children making you miserable like seriously or as a joke...cause my kids drive me crazy. But like ive said several times...they are truly my inspiration for everything i do. At the end of the day THEY are the only thing i can count on. (at least for now that they are young! lol)
2007-02-05 16:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most miserable times for parents are when they forget that they are the mature partner in the parent-child relationship and behave like children themselves. Don't respond to a child's tantrum with a tantrum of your own, for instance. Keep things in perspective, be patient, and know that your own good behavior today will lead to your child's better behavior tomorrow.
2007-02-05 16:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My child does NOT make me miserable. She is the best thing that ever happened to me and I don't know how I would live without her........
I'm a little scared for you child in that you think that the child makes you miserable........
2007-02-05 16:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you so miserable that you love them so much?
2007-02-05 16:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Garret Tripp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it really what you feel? I'm a parent too, but its not what i feel when problem arise with regards to my child. I know all the incovenience in rearing a child but that 's what makes them special to us. You must take pride on it. It's just like saying you want a big house to live in but can't tke care of it. I suggest you gather all your child in a family room then make most of the time playing, talking to them i know its a bit stressfull but after that you will relieve& realize that they are here to make our life happy & complete.
2007-02-05 18:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by briggs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we just get them without think how much responsibility that mean and by the time we notice they are already on 15 and up making our life real miserable.
i think the USA system make it worse than any other country.
don't worry after they are around 25 and up you will start filling the love and care from them then you going to see the result of all your sacrifice.
2007-02-05 17:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by Best Dominican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have childeren because we want to share our love and wisdom with them(as amum to 5 they can share ther wisdom with you to from time to time .yes its very hard to keep up your spirits when you have tantrums and what not but when you look in to there eyes and see those beautiful bright eyes looking back and asking you mummy is jack frost out tonight ?it makes it all worth while and much more.. i hpoe that you talk to some one if you do have kids maybe you just need to get a break for a while ....
2007-02-05 19:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by madamx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldn't say they make our lives miserable but its really tough sometimes but if you strive to be a good parent you can make it work and be happy.
2007-02-05 17:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by samwise25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋