How can I get my parents to agree to a peircing?

Question

I've been needing a change in my life, something to kickstart my new beginning. I didnt want anything drastic, just something simple to express myself. I've done all the research, I know the risks, and pretty much everything there is to know, and I want to get my tongue peirced. When I brought the idea up with my mother she went ballistic on me and everyting she said was completely irrational. I am smart enough to not peirce it myself, and I am also smart enough to know that if I'm going to do this, I need to go to a proffessional. But as I am only 14, I need parental consent. And as of right now, that seems impossible. Any suggestions?

Many of you think I should just wait until I am 18. But as you probably can assume, that is NOT the type of answer I am looking for here. This whole year I've been doing things to move on from this time in my life and finally be the person I want to be. I've died my hair, something my mother didnt want me to do at first, but now she loves it, I've changed my clothing style, and started studying subjects that I am interested in. How can I make her understand that this is not a juvenile decision because I am "a rebellious, ignorant teenager"?

Please don't answer unless you know what you're talking about...tongue peircing is one of the safest, cleanest, and less risky peircings you can get. It is inside of your mouth and heals faster than any other peircing, and if cared for correctly, will have no complications. I have eight peircings in my ears and am ready for something more.

Answer 1

I know all about piercings, especially ones involving the tongue and other facial piercings. Yes if done by a professional who is using the proper safety precautions, it is a safe procedure. He or she has to give you detailed instructions on how to care for your piercings. Fortunately mouth piercings heal faster than others do.

The downside (which I learned the hard way) is that tongue rings can cause chipped teeth, fractures (if you accidentally bite down on it) and wearing away of the tooth enamel if it rubs against your teeth. It truly depends on the size of your mouth to see if it is going to work out well for you...

The good thing is that you can take it out if you ever decide you don't want it anymore and you won't see any scars. Just take my advice, never even think about the labret. It causes rubbing against the gums and then you get gum recession. Once you have to remove it you end up with an indent where the piercing once was. It's not pleasant...Those piercings tend to cause the most problems.

Ultimately the most you can do is educate your mother about tongue piercings (they don't even hurt BTW). The worst part is the temporary swelling which you can relieve by having something cold like ice cream, etc....

Answer 2

In 4 years, you can do what you want. Right now you can sneak around, lose your parent's trust, get a tongue piercing, and mess up your social life for a few months/years.

Four years seems like a lot of time to you, but don't look at it as time to wait but a goal. Plan out the weekend after you 18th birthday. Find the tattoo/ piercing place, pick out the gear, pick out the tattoo, and keep a record of it. if your tastes change over a few months, make a note. let you parents know you have decided to wait but are planning.

Basically, show you parents some respect but still plan to do what you want. This alone will establish that you have a solid decision making process in place although it does not guarantee you'll get approval anytime before your 18th birthday.

But wait, at least six months, before you decide to sneak off and do it anyway. Trust is a hard thing to gain back.

Answer 3

I'd get something other than the tongue peirced at your age. It's a big misconception that it's used mainly for sexual reason. Maybe your mother is freaking out over this fact. Also kids your age may also come to that reasoning even if it's not why you want it. Maybe the belly wouldnt be as bad for your mom to handle and if it is go for an ear cartilage for now, there are plenty of different types for the ear now, wait a couple more years and try again with your mom on the others if she doesn't like the idea.
I have to say the tongue seems alittle to extreme for your age. I understand you want to express yourself in a different way....nothing wrong with that. At your age I was tempted to try piercing my belly on my own....glad I didn't.
I had my tongue peirced for about a year before I had to take mine out because it was making my front bottome tooth loose.

Answer 4

Well, you can't make your parents change their minds. Perhaps you should print out all of the research that you have collected so that they know how serious you are about this. However, piercings aren't cheap, and I'm sure they're not going to want to pay for it. If you don't have a job, tell them you are fully prepared to get a job to pay for it yourself. If you take on a few more responsibilities, your parents will realize that you are becoming a responsible individual who can make her own decisions.
Although, many places won't let you work with a tongue ring...you may need to take it out to work. But, at least it isn't a tattoo, which is permanent. Because, trust me, the things you are into at 14 are NOT the things you'll be into at 18, 21, 25, and so on. Things change!

Answer 5

Don't get your tongue pierced. That is the most dangerous piercing you can get, and it NEVER heals. You can have heart problems and all kinds of stuff in the future. I'm 18 and I have 6 piercings all together. The tongue is one that I will never do, so I understand why your parents say no. Your only 14, and its prolly a good reason you can't get it on your own right now because you may regret it. Why did you want to get it anyway ?

Answer 6

Wait until your 18... Try starting with dying your hair a funky color.
Thats something that will grow out or you can change back if you dont like it. I have my tongue pierced but I waited until I turned 18.

Answer 7

Yes, wait until you are 18 and then do whatever you want! You are still a child and your parents have the right to say no. That's what they've done so respect their wishes and wait!

Answer 8

Is this your biggest problem?.Think how fortunate you are.If you were preoccupied with sex like your supposed to be at 14 you wouldnt have to focusl on your stupid tongue hole.Id like to turn you over my knee.I really would.

Answer 9

if your only 14 if i was your mom i would never let you do it till MAYBE 17.